robert7x Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 So my friend just started dating... and it's his first relationship ever... he's 25 and frankly i don't have a good answer for him on this one cause in my case it just happens. He's been dating this girl for about a week now.. they made it offical that they are in relationship and all that crap So he was wandering how does he make a move toward sex... because apparently he's making sex comments and all that stuff and there is physical contact, but nothing further... they didn't talk about it though, and i'm no help like i said... I don't know what to tell him. What do you guys/girls think? Any advice. Thanks. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 official within a week? wow. i think he needs to make more advances other than sex talk. it will happen at the pace of both. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Tell him its only been a week and any respectful woman will wait at least a good month maybe even 3. =] So he needs to chill a bit and relax while enjoying the relationship! He should just simply ask her, when does she feel sex is a good time to have it? Or just let things happen. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 well, have they talked about it? that's what I did with my current BF. probably not the way most people handle it but it worked for us..... Link to comment
Catdancer Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 This is something that they should talk about. If they are already "in a relationship" after a week, then things are moving fast. They should address issues like sex, preferences, like and dislikes before jumping in. I usually just do it, but it's been a longggg time since I had no sexual experience! lol Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 To each his own, but I don't see how they can be in, or call it a relationship after only one week. I think he should date her, and get to know her, for at least a few months before bringing up the subject of sex. Just my opinion... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 One week and they are official! Perhaps they should get to know each other better before rushing into sex. The reason why he can't figure out how to move towards sex is because he is rushing things. If he is not the type of person who is into 'wham bam thank you Ma'am" scenes then the sex will happen once he is more at ease with the person he is seeing. They have only known each other a week...he needs to relax. Is he in the relationship for the right reasons or did he rush into it just so that he can say he has a girlfriend and has had sex. Link to comment
robert7x Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 This is interesting... see I had my fair of failed relationships and stuff in the past... but sex was never an issue... for me it happened within couple of days... But then again, those relationships did fail... So i see what you guys are saying... I guess i can tell him to slow down and not focus so much on sex... I think what bugs him is that he is 25 and even though he is saying he's not a virgin... i think he is. So maybe that's why he's all worked up about it. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 This is interesting... see I had my fair of failed relationships and stuff in the past... but sex was never an issue... for me it happened within couple of days... But then again, those relationships did fail... So i see what you guys are saying... I guess i can tell him to slow down and not focus so much on sex... I think what bugs him is that he is 25 and even though he is saying he's not a virgin... i think he is. So maybe that's why he's all worked up about it. I think they both need to talk about it so they are on the same page. Link to comment
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