route1 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 just wondering if you were to describe your perfect looking guy what would it be? Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Thank you, that makes a lot of sense. Don't get me wrong I don't base everything on looks, but they at least have to be somewhat attractive to me. I will definitely be looking out for red flags and will get out as soon as it starts going downhill instead of wasting years on people like I have done in the past. Don't think I am ready for dating yet though. I just go out and talk to people but leave it there for now. Hmmmm. I don't really have a type. Both my ex's look and are completely different. I don't really go for a certain type. I have pretty odd taste really and find people attractive that a lot of people wouldn't. I suppose there just has to be something about them that draws me in. But to answer your question as best I can I would have to say, Quite tall, dark hair, not too skinny but toned, quite strong, you get the idea? lol Don't like them to be obviously good looing though, you know the clean shaven, not a hair out of place ones? No thank you. Link to comment
route1 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 haha yea i get your drift. just wondering. at the minute the girls asking me out are not my type. small brown hair and cute. i like girls with small cute face. but i should not be complaining girls asking guys out is rare. lol Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Nah they're not my type either. Although friday night I actually did meet someone who could have fit the bill, but my friend and I left the club to go elsewhere lol Strangely enough though, I am only 4ft 11 but still want a tall man lol I'd say no smaller that 5ft 10 lol Link to comment
route1 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 lol rules me out im 5,9. lol no i know how u feel. sometimes i think il never find someone i miss the connection with someone the catching movies the eating out the dvds and nights in when its raining outside. going out for a drink with your girl there. somedays i think il never find it with someone i love and loves me. i sound like a girl but i hate going out searching for someone i hate bars and clubs and parties but i do it to try meet people. aaarrrggghhh lol hate it Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Me too, it's all those things that I miss a lot. Instead I am either going out and getting drunk and making a * * * of myself or spending nights in alone being bored out of my swede! Link to comment
route1 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 ur right it sucks. every night you come home without a fonenumber or a possibility its like you get downhearted and feel in square one. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Yeah phone numbers which I never ring lol Link to comment
Daria_Lane Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 At times I feel the same way, shoefairy. Gonna be 26 in Dec. Seriously annoys me that Im not with someone special right now. They say the best time it happens is when you're NOT looking but sometimes I just cant help but worry The worse is when you are hounded by guys you dont want to have nothing to do with or be in any kind of intimate relationship. It bugs me that I might be forced to "settle" Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 At times I feel the same way, shoefairy. Gonna be 26 in Dec. Seriously annoys me that Im not with someone special right now. They say the best time it happens is when you're NOT looking but sometimes I just cant help but worry The worse is when you are hounded by guys you dont want to have nothing to do with or be in any kind of intimate relationship. It bugs me that I might be forced to "settle" I feel exactly like you Daria. I just feel around now is the time when we should at least be with someone we feel there could be a future with. It's scary thinking that I have to start from scratch again. I have heard a lot of people say that it happens when you least expect it which I guess is true because me met our ex's when we were least expecting it right? I take a lot of comfort in this statement but like you I can't help but worry either. Know what you mean about being hounded by guys you have no interest in too. I know they don't mean any harm but it kinds makes me sick and I want to scream at them to go away!!! lol I think I would rather be alone that to settle for someone I'm not interested in. Link to comment
StillSmiling Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Quit crying in your soup! LOL I'm starting over at 54! AND, I am 5'9". So I can see the bald spot on too many of them. Think I'll get another dog instead =) Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Quit crying in your soup! LOL I'm starting over at 54! AND, I am 5'9". So I can see the bald spot on too many of them. Think I'll get another dog instead =) lol thank you, that made me laugh 54? Wow!!! Are you not scared? I suppose people meet people of all ages all the time though dont they so there probably isnt anything to worry about Link to comment
wizard71 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Well im 37 and i have no children, never been married. Youve got plenty of time on me hun! Dont worry. Its a worry that affects most of us after going what we have gone through. Maybe its because of the temporary blow to our self esteem. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Blimey, I've read many of your posts and seen your picture and it never once occurred to me that you would be older than me lol. I think you are right. Surely if we hadn't been hurt like we have and had stayed single all this time then we wouldn't have these worries. Maybe it has a lot to do with the rejection. Although single-never been married-no kids men might not be hanging around on every corner, surely there are enough of them right? lol My friend said something that kinda bothered me and it went something like this, "Most men our age are either married with kids or separated with kids, if they have never been married and don't have kids at our age they probably have serious commitment issues". Arghhh, she sprung this on me while we were out one night drink and I was trying to have a good time, certainly out a dampner on my night lol Link to comment
wizard71 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Ah lol shoefairy, there are plenty of never been married no kids men about. I wouldnt pick one thats hanging around on a street corner tho As for the serious commitment issues, i wouldnt take any notice of that whatsoever. I chose a different life path, that would have made all that difficult for me. Just because someone my age doesnt have the socially accepted life conditions, it doesnt mean i have any commitment issues. In fact, the life i led meant i had to have serious commitment to my job. Commitment doesnt just mean a partner. Things have changed now, i would very much like to meet someone and settle down, and it didnt work out with my ex, with whom i really felt i could spend the rest of my life with. But im not going to compromise on the type of person i am looking for, just because the clock is ticking. Hell girl, i gotta few years left in me yet, and people call me fussy, but if your gonna spend a lifetime with someone, youd better make sure you are fussy! I aint gonna find the type of girl i want on a street corner either Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Very well said, Thank you a lot for that I'll just sit back and start whistling here decent boy!!!! *whistles* Link to comment
wizard71 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Dont start whistling, you will have every stray in the area after you! lol Link to comment
anggrace Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I had worried about this is the past. But if I were to make the assumption that the only single 'older' men had some kind of baggage, than wouldn't it be fair to make that assumption about all the 'older' women who were single? I know that was not the case for me. I had simply spent too much time in the wrong relationships trying to make them work. I have no children, have not been married and love the idea of comittment. Im sure there are others out there, men included, who are in the same boat. How to find them? All I can tell you is this, give people a chance. Don't write someone off because of something that might initially turn you off. Be open and you might just surprise yourself. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 I had worried about this is the past. But if I were to make the assumption that the only single 'older' men had some kind of baggage, than wouldn't it be fair to make that assumption about all the 'older' women who were single? I know that was not the case for me. I had simply spent too much time in the wrong relationships trying to make them work. I have no children, have not been married and love the idea of comittment. Im sure there are others out there, men included, who are in the same boat. How to find them? All I can tell you is this, give people a chance. Don't write someone off because of something that might initially turn you off. Be open and you might just surprise yourself. Yeah I have thought this too and it makes a lot of sense. I am sure there are lots our age just coming out of LTR's Link to comment
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