DaBladeRoden Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Why does it not attract the ladies? Am I too fat, or too boring? link removed Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I think it's funny...it's not one of those boring profiles I see on OKC all the time. Where you talk about your hobbies though in the first section, it's very tailored to the "homebody" type though--watching tv, listening to music, etc. Maybe edit that part out to make it look like you're more social than your profile makes you appear to be? Otherwise I thnk it's a good profile!! You'll probably see me on your stalker list! Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 well, one issue i see is the fact that in your journal, you mention being interested in that girl "Gwen." that would turn me off, to hear you write about it. i think you should just ask her out, and not make these things public to other women you are trying to attract. i'd feel like if i did go out with you, i'd just be a 'time-filler' until gwen did ask you out. i think you have too many face shots, and they're all kind of the same. i'd take some out, and put in a full body shot instead. try to smile too. i'd also reconsider if you want to have your okcupid name the same as your enotalone name. it's just too easy to google. Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 well, one issue i see is the fact that in your journal, you mention being interested in that girl "Gwen." that would turn me off, to hear you write about it. i think you should just ask her out, and not make these things public to other women you are trying to attract. i'd feel like if i did go out with you, i'd just be a 'time-filler' until gwen did ask you out. i think you have too many face shots, and they're all kind of the same. i'd take some out, and put in a full body shot instead. try to smile too. i'd also reconsider if you want to have your okcupid name the same as your enotalone name. it's just too easy to google. Yeah, your ENA name shuld never be the same as anythng else--if anyone I'm dating saw the crap I write on here, I swear... I agree with Annie about the pictures. Do something more diverse, something showing you're fun or something. I didn't read your journal, but Annie does have a point--dont talk about love interests in particular on dating sites... Link to comment
Bkoguy07 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Yeah, your ENA name shuld never be the same as anythng else--if anyone I'm dating saw the crap I write on here, I swear... I agree with Annie about the pictures. Do something more diverse, something showing you're fun or something. I didn't read your journal, but Annie does have a point--dont talk about love interests in particular on dating sites... mine is, i aint scared! lol *hopes no one googles me* Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 mine is, i aint scared! lol *hopes no one googles me* googling you now....haha Link to comment
Mallam23 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I agree with the above poster that it does give off a bit of a homebody-ish-ness to it. That's not necessarily a bad thing though. Just make sure to point out that your always up for trying something new or different (if you are of course lol). I like that you put a lot on your page of what you are into, what type of person you are, and your career goals. The one thing that I really think you need to include to get more hits is that type of person you are looking to meet. It's a site used to meet people. And although you did a great job describing yourself.. I think you made that too much of the focus. Maybe try aiming at describing your perfect match? Just some ideas to work with Oh yeah... and take a picture with your shirt off! That would get ya a wink from me lol. Link to comment
arwen Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Try a smile in your photos, or have really good pictures- like taken from your side. These look like webcam shots. Don't mention particular girls you are interested in irl- it will make girls think you won't be fully available. Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Hm, I know a lot of girls who don't like pics of guys with their shirts off. If it's posed, I mean. It looks arrogant to me! I agree with the above poster thoug--describe what you're looking for! Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Ok, I'll critique! Let me say in advance that I've never done online dating, and I had never been on this site before, but...here are my thoughts. - The second sentence of your profile- "And thus that's the field where I'm looking for work"- it makes you sound like you are unemployed, which is not what I imagine most women are looking for. - You have many interesting hobbies, but for some reason, when you list them- these are the first ones you list- "watching tv, listening to music (esp. 80's rock), and playing video games..." Yawn. These are kind of lame "hobbies" to advertise. Later on you list many more interesting ones, but if someone is skimming (as I suspect many women do), these first ones are the only ones she'll read. - Later on you say "eHarmony says I represent the logical, level-headed viewpoint in a conflict..." I would leave out the 'eHarmony" part. It draws attention to the fact that you are using multipe dating sites (seems kind of desperate), and also, who cares what eHarmony says? If this is true about you, state it as a fact. - Leave out using the word "Hypnagognia." It makes you sound kind of pretentious. Like grandpa used to say, never use a five dollar word where a five cent one would do. -And this "This summer in my spare time I've started out at a new gym so I can put better pics of me up." I would remove that. I mean, every person who wasn't in perfect shape coudld put something like that. It just makes it seem like you are insecure about how you look. If you are unhappy with how you look, then go to the gym and put the new pics up when you have them. Ok, that's all I have. Just a few tweaks. Overall, I think you are cute and have an interestig profile. Honestly - maybe you're main problem is where you live. Is it a small town? Can you expand your search a bit? Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Which pics are the most "get ride of" worthy? Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Ok, that's all I have. Just a few tweaks. Overall, I think you are cute and have an interestig profile. Honestly - maybe you're main problem is where you live. Is it a small town? Can you expand your search a bit? Well, I keep my main focus is in a 75 mile radius, but I found a couple people exceptional. Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Which pics are the most "get ride of" worthy? #4 & #5. #4 is just repetitive, and #5 is not a flattering full body shot. Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 You do have a lot of face shots and they are repetitive, but the one of you with your group of friends at the bottom just makes you look miserable. On top of the homebody part of your profile, it makes you look like you don't like social settings. Do you have a better one of you and your friends? Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 #4 & #5. #4 is just repetitive, and #5 is not a flattering full body shot. Well, they say body shots are essential on dating sites, and with my figure I can either do non-flattering body shot or none at all. You do have a lot of face shots and they are repetitive, but the one of you with your group of friends at the bottom just makes you look miserable. On top of the homebody part of your profile, it makes you look like you don't like social settings. Do you have a better one of you and your friends? These are all the photos I have of me with more than one other person, and the bottom 3 are two years old, and I can now see why I couldn't get a date in college with that hair. image removedimage removedimage removed image removed Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Don't do old pictures. They never work! Don't do the pics with your friends then....none of them are very flattering. Do more smiling pictures! Even if you think they look dumb. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 yeah, you aren't really smiling in any of those friend photos. honestly, you really don't need more than 1-2 photos. one face shot, one full body shot. i agree with not using old photos. photos shouldn't be more than a year old. Link to comment
Debbie37 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I would say put more pictures of yourself, and smile in the pictures. you seem to have a neutral-angrily depressed face in all of yours. Also take some photos in different settings, and different angles (showing your whole body, face ect). The ones you have now are all the same. And you do give of a slightly homebodyish/unadventurous vibe, which to be perfectly honest, makes you seem a little boring. Jazz it up a bit Also, overall your profile makes you seem like you have a good sense of humour, but you don't start being funny until halfway through the profile. Make sure you put that in at first, because that will catch a girls eye and keep her reading to the end. Hope I've provided some good insight Link to comment
hers Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 And I know you saw my OKC profile so tell me what you think of mine! Link to comment
greensleeves Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I like the black and white headshot the best. I think you should focus less on the fact that you're not working right now and move watching tv from the top of your hobbies down to the bottom. Also, the first question in questions you care about is "How willing would you be to try new things sexually with a partner". It might give some women the impression that you're only on the site for sex, and maybe some kinky sex. That's okay if that's what you ARE on the site for, but if you're actually looking for some sort of a relationship, you might want to replace it with another question and move that one down the list a bit. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I don't know about a website that says you been a member since 2006! You don't leave anything out to talk about. Maybe not write your homebody time haha. The you should message me is funny! LOL I think you should just do plenty of fish. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Everyone gave great tips, in summary those I agree with: -username being same as ena name -talking about another site; eharmony -the part where you mentioned the 'field you are looking for work' in. Most women bypass unemployed men -The mention of the girl gwen. No woman wants to read about the guy takling about another women. huge turn off. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Definitely dont use that bottom one with the girls in it. Well, they say body shots are essential on dating sites, and with my figure I can either do non-flattering body shot or none at all. These are all the photos I have of me with more than one other person, and the bottom 3 are two years old, and I can now see why I couldn't get a date in college with that hair. image removedimage removedimage removed image removed Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I think you need to cut yourself OUT of the pictures or take new ones. Because people don't want to see you how you looked 2 years ago but how you look now. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I think you need to cut yourself OUT of the pictures or take new ones. Because people don't want to see you how you looked 2 years ago but how you look now. ABsolutely. When i did online dating i was most irritated by the profiles where the men used old photos. No one is interested in how someone looked in their heyday unless they begin dating seriously and are interested in nostalgia. Link to comment
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