First day back

[Carmine]

Yesterday I went back to school. I met a lot of people and got a few girls' numbers on my first day. I also made a few enemies at a party, but I made a lot more friends.

 

One particular girl sticks out to me, though, and I think I can like her a lot in the future. While I was getting lunch she came in with a friend and we made direct eye contact and smiled at each other. While we were in line we smiled at each other again. She's the one who first said something to me. I sat with her and her friend for hours talking. When we parted ways she gave me her number without me even asking.

 

I'm wondering if she's interested in me sexually. She sure showed some good signs, but she's a freshmen and might be trying to be extra friendly in the beginning so she can meet people. She seems to have a lot of guy friends, but she doesn't strike me as being loose and easy at all, based on some things she told me.

 

So you think she was just being really friendly?

[bijoux27]

I don't think us on the internet could tell you if she is interested in you sexually, there is no way we could tell. But she is interested in you in AT LEAST a friend way and maybe more. It's pretty early right now so just continue to get to know her.

[redhearts]

Shes into you sexually? So you just want to bang her? Uhhm. She may like you, or she may just want another guy friend! You won't know till you call her and find things out!=]

[Carmine]

Shes into you sexually? So you just want to bang her? Uhhm. She may like you, or she may just want another guy friend! You won't know till you call her and find things out!=]

 

No no no, of course I don't just want to bang her! I meant interested in me as more than just a friend.

[redhearts]

LOL! You should of said you think shes interested in you as dating material? Sexually sounds like you just wanted sex! My bad! Well you can't read her mind, so I say call her up and ask her on a date! Then you'll find out.

[Carmine]

I suggested we meet up and do something later. She told me definitely and that she'll call me once she gets back from some event later.

[george237]

I suggested we meet up and do something later. She told me definitely and that she'll call me once she gets back from some event later.

 

Take her out for a fat sandwhich.

[olive]

i don't know if it's a sexual interest...but from a girl's stand point..yeah, she likes you...having guy friends isn't necessarily a bad thing...growing up and even through high school i was always friends with the guys...try calling or texting her and asking her if she wants to go out sometime...obviously you guys don't have troubles talking...so just be sure to bring it up along the road....ask her what she's interested in...just sex or a relationship?...another clue might be the end of the date.......if she's all over you and you have sex...it could be a sign that that's what she wants, but not to say a relationship to go along with it

[ProtestTheHero]

This is why you are my hero Carmine...it's just that easy.

 

It's incredibly hard to gauge whether or not she's into you sexually at this point. I would bet a considerable amount of money that she's not thinking of making this platonic. Most of the time if a woman gives you her number but wants to be friends, she makes that pretty clear throughout the time you first spend with her. She might mention a guy she likes, etc. etc. all to disarm any attempt of trying to get romantically involved with you. If she just gave you her number no questions asked -- yeah, she digs you. It's yours to either screw up or slam dunk now.

[Carmine]

Maybe I screwed it up already, not sure though.

 

Called her last night and talked for a bit. She said she just got dinner and was heading home from the thing she was at. She asked what I was doing tonight and I told her that I was just relaxing and hanging around. She told me she'd give me a call after she gets home and takes a shower...never got a call, though.

 

You think this is her blowing me off or did she just legitimately forget? I admit, it was kinda late...maybe it'd be better if I plan something a day or two in advance. I'm not sure when to call next though because I don't want to seem too focused on her or needy.

[george237]

Maybe I screwed it up already, not sure though.

 

Called her last night and talked for a bit. She said she just got dinner and was heading home from the thing she was at. She asked what I was doing tonight and I told her that I was just relaxing and hanging around. She told me she'd give me a call after she gets home and takes a shower...never got a call, though.

 

You think this is her blowing me off or did she just legitimately forget? I admit, it was kinda late...maybe it'd be better if I plan something a day or two in advance. I'm not sure when to call next though because I don't want to seem too focused on her or needy.

 

Well she is a freshman. She doesn't want to just be hanging around on one of her first nights at school. You should have invited her to a party or had a party of your own.

[Ahhh]

^^^Gotta agree with that. First week back at college = partytime! Find out where everyone is going, then call and invite her. Tell her you need a beer pong partner! JK!

[ghost69]

how come everytime you flirt, get a phone number, get good signs you run to ENA and ask us? do some work on your own man. call them up and hang out. find out.

[JeckyllNHyde]

i think you shouldn't worry so much.

you made a move and called. she pretty much kinda knows you dig her a bit.

let her call you like she said she would.

otherwise no big loss right? at least you made a move. balls in her court.

[Carmine]

Well she is a freshman. She doesn't want to just be hanging around on one of her first nights at school. You should have invited her to a party or had a party of your own.

 

I did invite her to a party the day I met her, but she was already going to another one. Yesterday was like a Sunday (labor day), and no one has parties on Sundays...so hanging out is what we'd do.

 

let her call you like she said she would.

 

She said she'd call me last night but didn't, not that she'd call me today or the next day.

 

I don't think the "ball in her court" rules really apply here. If she does like me, she's going to still feel weird about calling an upperclassman who she just met, even though I showed myself as being open and friendly. No girl has ever taken the initiative and called me, even when I told her to.

[JeckyllNHyde]

She said she'd call me last night but didn't, not that she'd call me today or the next day.

 

I don't think the "ball in her court" rules really apply here. If she does like me, she's going to still feel weird about calling an upperclassman who she just met, even though I showed myself as being open and friendly. No girl has ever taken the initiative and called me, even when I told her to.

 

Fair enough.

Maybe try talking to her more casually and face to face at school etc, and seeing how she responds (if she shows interest, etc).

I say this b.c (from what i understand) you called her the same day? There may be potential with her but just don't rush it or come on too strong. It could scare her off.

Dunno if she has your mobile, but she could have texted or something instead of calling as well. It's less intimidating.

[Carmine]

Yeah, doing texting back and fourth too. She usually responds to me right away and writes long messages, which is a good sign (as opposed to responding with 1 word answers).

[ghost69]

just remember carmine, 'first day back.'

[Carmine]

Aye aye mate.

[george237]

I would stop texting her so much. If there is a party you are going to this week shoot her one the night before asking her to go.

[Shudder]

don't worry so much man, its your 1st week back. go out and meet some new people and try not to get too stuck to one person. I made that mistake once and it wasnt good.

[Carmine]

Meeting plenty of people...in fact, I've been kinda lucky. There are a number of girls I saw last year that I'd only exchange looks with that are living right by me. This one cute girl who lives right next to me is definitely into me but she's insane...not kidding.

 

I've gotten a hell of a lot more looks, chats, and numbers in the last few days than I did for any given month last year. No idea what it is, but I'm not complaining, haha.

 

And I'm planning on having a party for my birthday (it's just an excuse to have a party) in a few weeks. Gonna use the house of these girls that I know.

[george237]

Why not just have a party this week too. I used to have one 3 or 4 nights during the first week.

[Carmine]

Need to get the booze first my friend I need the money. Spent most of it on music equipment and need some for car payments. Still, I can spare a bit for a party or two.

[george237]

hahaha that's always the worst trying to find someone to get the beer. I used to sell some books from last year to get money. Try that.