Should I get involved?

[bikerc4]

Like i said already tell her go to the doctor thats the first step. Then go to the local police station and ask for advice go from there.

[Seraphim]

Have her write out exactly all that was said and done, time, places,dates etc. And report it to a dr and lawyer. Unless he actually uses physical violence the police will not likely intervene.

[Dioufy]

Can anyone tell me the benefits of going to the doctors if it's not physical abuse?

[bikerc4]

It's mental abuse. Does not have to be physical.

[hers]

Have her write out exactly all that was said and done, time, places,dates etc. And report it to a dr and lawyer. Unless he actually uses physical violence the police will not likely intervene.

 

This is a good suggestion. I don't thikn the doctor is necessary unless he's hurting her or the kids, but the lawyer should have records of all of this to present it in court.

 

Does she have a job, OP? How does she make her money?

[Seraphim]

The police will not usually get involved in mental abuse. Can she accuse him of theft of her property? The dr can state that there is mental anguish due to his actions and statements and he can help her with that abuse. He might be able to give a letter with his recommendations to both lawyers.

[bikerc4]

Sometimes the police can advise where to go and what to do thats why i said that.

[redhearts]

She should kill him with kindness. Because if he knows hes getting to her it only makes him happy.

[bikerc4]

well thats a good idea too.

[Dioufy]

She works part time (not much though), so she is reliant on him a bit, but is looking for somewhere else.

[hers]

How much of a priority is it for her to get out? If someone wants to change things, they make it a priority, even if that means working many extra hours to get out from under someone's control. I'm suspicious if she is staying for another reason (no offense. It just seems weird).

[HellFrost666]

I was in almost the same situation three years ago. Her and her soon to be ex didn't live togehter, she was staying with her sister and in the process of divorcing him. He was nasty to her, and believe me, I wanted really bad to "knock his block off."

 

There really isn't a whole lot you can do but be there for her when she needs you. Soon she will be out of that house and things will be better.

[Dioufy]

She has lived with her mum for a bit but needs to go back there because of work and the one of the kids goes to school there. It's too far for them to travel to school if they still lived at their nans, so she doesn't have any choice but to go back there - even if she hates it. It just a mess for everyone but I won't get involved, especially with violence.