Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Well, if men don't "want that type of girl", then why do men always try for sex? Any answers guys????????? Exactly...judgements are a two way street...if they want to judge a woman badly for having sex so quickly with them..well...what in the world are they doing...they too are having sex very early on so it is the pot calling the kettle black. Link to comment
Tethys Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Well, if men don't "want that type of girl", then why do men always try for sex? Any answers guys????????? Good question. Most red-blooded males try for sex on the first date, lol! Link to comment
FreedomRing Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Yes there is a such thing, but not in all cases should/would/could it make a difference..lol..if that makes any sense.. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 D-Lish, are you in relationship that started online? No, but I have been. We were gonna meet and after chatting for months via mail, phone and text, felt like I'd known him forever and I used to wonder back then, if it would be wise or not to sleep with him straight away. Made me think about it again and because this topic was brought up. I mean, online you get to know a person...it's just minus the 'physical' lacking... Link to comment
mca1975 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 I agree with Tethys, but I also think it depends on the man. Its how much respect he has for women and also how intelligent he is, because I think if a man lost out on a great woman just because she slept with him in the heat of a moment, then it would be wrong to assume she was not great. His intelligence would tell him that it doesnt mean this is what the woman is all about. Plus its a womans right to have sex if she wants to however long she has been seeing him for. We enjoy sex too, but we also have to take on board that it may not turn into a relationship. But on the other hand, the woman may sleep with a man early, he could fall for HER and she could not want anymore, im sure it works both ways. There are men who make the assumption that this woman may sleep around, but it does not in no way always mean that at all. I have slept with people quickly but I consider myself a great woman with a lot of sensitivity and intelligence and who has a lot to give. So yeh, his loss! Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 I was thinking though... What about if you were in an online relationship and you'd known the guy for months, talked by phone and then you met. Would sex be ok, on your first real life encounter? Or might he still think of you as a 'tart'.... This actually happened to me. And no, he didn't think I was a "tart." We were in love and felt we'd already met long before the physical encounter. We'd been building to that point for 6 months of getting to know eachother layer by layer. We knew a LOT more than many people do in real life when they sleep together for the first time, in the average scenario. It was anything but "cheap." Or hasty. And that did nothing to affect the relationship one way or the other -- we both stayed committed for the rest of the relationship, though it was a disaster for other reasons. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 If the chemistry is intense and it feels right - ie that this could last a long long time then what's the rush? Why take the risk of complicating a new relationship with sex and overwhelming one or borh people if you "just know" there is future potential? Link to comment
Tethys Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Batya, I agree, and sex usually does complicate things, and most people should get to know one another first. But, if it does happen, for whatever reason, I don't think the man should automatically think, "Oh, well, she's trashy --next!" There are thousands of reasons a woman might sleep with a man early, and she should not be "nexted" on that basis only. That is all! Link to comment
mca1975 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Well said Tethys! I agree Link to comment
Batya33 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 So would he think any the less of a woman, if he'd got to know her online beforehand, do you think? As in they had been chatting for months and got along and had this connection.... I wouldn't "count" the typing and talking as part of the getting to know process of dating - the first meeting in person is the first meet, for purposes of figuring out whether there is potential for a relationship. then you decide whether to go on a first date. I know of many people who "seduce" on line so that the first date will seem like a later date for purposes of having sex. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Batya, I agree, and sex usually does complicate things, and most people should get to know one another first. But, if it does happen, for whatever reason, I don't think the man should automatically think, "Oh, well, she's trashy --next!" There are thousands of reasons a woman might sleep with a man early, and she should not be "nexted" on that basis only. That is all! I agree with this too. Link to comment
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