bobsiesprincess Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 hey guys. this time last year i was dumped by my bf of 2 years. words cannot describe how devastated i was. i genuinely believed that my life was ruined, that my whole future was gone. i didnt eat and didnt sleep. i didnt barely go out for months. i lost all self confidence. i didnt believe that i was loveable or that id ever meet anyone again. i cant even describe how bad i was.... i cried every single day for months and months. i got put on anti depressants and sleeping tablets. i spent time thinking up plots to win my ex back and buying books to help me do that. i texted him and called him and emailed him. eventually i realised none of that was working and i went NC. its the best thing i ever did. if someone doesnt want to be with you, then they dont, dont try and convince them - you deserve someone who will never let you go. i felt like giving up on life. i quit my dream job and wasnt going back to uni. eventually, i came to the realisation that i had to better myself. i had to do everything i wanted from life. i dedicated alot of time to going to the gym to feel better about myself, i decided to go back to uni and get my honours, and i made plans to go to america to work for the summer which was a dream of mine. so here I am a year later. when i think back to how bad i was it breaks my heart. i had no hope for me or my life. i went to uni and worked super hard and got an amazing mark. way better than i would have got had i been with him cos my studying time would have went to him. i threw myself into the gym and driving lessons and got myself a wee car. im just back from spending my whole summer working and travelling in america. i wouldnt have done that had we still been together because i couldnt have left him. and, believe it or not... im in love once again. i have an amazing bf who treats me like an absolute princess and adores me. i NEVER thought I could meet someone else. i met a mutual friend recently of the ex and me. he told me how ive come out of this breakup far better than my ex... that comment made me so proud of myself and everything ive done. overall, my advice to all the broken hearted is 1) GO NC...seriously 2) come here and post whenever you need to, it helps to feel like your not the only one going through this 3) allow yourself time to mope and wallow, but eventually you have to force yourself to get up and out there 4) do everything for you, everything you ever wanted to do - make it happen everything happens for a reason. and looking back, im glad that me and my ex broke up (never imagined id say that!). i have learned so many life lessons. its made me a stronger, more independent person. this site did so much for me. i want to thank everyone who helped me and replied to my posts in my times of need. i will always be grateful... if i hadnt found this site, god knows what id be like now. i have faith that all of you will come through this as well... you just gotta ride out the storm. there will be ups and downs, but every day you will progress a tiny bit. if you ever need support or advise, feel free to pm me. ive been there. Link to comment
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