dragonzeyez Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Ok, I have been thinking this for a long time... I think a lot of women are attracted to guys more simply because he is taken by another woman. Seriously, when I was single I could barely get a single girl to even notice me. Started dating my current gf about 2 months ago and suddenly 100 different women have hit on me, lots of them making it absolutely clear to me that they want to sleep with me. So my theory is that a lot of women out there have something built into there heads that makes them immediately more attracted to men who are no longer available. Ladies, any thoughts on this? Link to comment
D_Lish Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Nah, Im not into 'sloppy seconds' thanks. Would much rather have my 'own man'... Link to comment
LBP Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Women appreciate value. In either playing the field or 'going steady' with a given girl, your value isa established. Thus, you are desired. This is a generalization. In both sexes, there are men and women who buck the trend. Those are the keepers... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 guys do the exact same thing. This happens to me too. It's the realization of "hey, someone thinks they're good enough to date". It's slimy to try and get with a taken person though... Link to comment
dragonzeyez Posted August 31, 2008 Author Share Posted August 31, 2008 guys do the exact same thing. This happens to me too. It's the realization of "hey, someone thinks they're good enough to date". It's slimy to try and get with a taken person though... agreed, and you guys are right, I should not have made this sound like a generalization on women, that was my mistake. I just find it odd how people do it though. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I think SOME insecure women are like that, they want what they cant have and quite possibly gives them some kind of pathetic confidence boost that they can take what someone else has, very wrong. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 agreed, and you guys are right, I should not have made this sound like a generalization on women, that was my mistake. I just find it odd how people do it though. No, I understand that this was based on women. Afterall, you are a man so women's behaviour in dating is what you are focusing on. Link to comment
dragonzeyez Posted August 31, 2008 Author Share Posted August 31, 2008 No, I understand that this was based on women. Afterall, you are a man so women's behaviour in dating is what you are focusing on. After reading what I posted I realized it came accross in a way I had not intended is what I am trying to say. Link to comment
keith515 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I think it has to do with confidence. When you are with someone, you feel more confident. Thus, you attract more women. Also, when you are with someone, you are not trying to attract women and that makes you more attractive as well. Link to comment
Superfreak Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I never had this "attraction bounce" when I was in a relationship. It's possible that maybe I did and just wasn't noticing, but nobody at all was blatent about it. I didn't have any other girls trying to pull me in to bed. I'm single now and don't notice any difference in terms of how I'm treated by women. Link to comment
Mario_Basler Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Ok, I have been thinking this for a long time... I think a lot of women are attracted to guys more simply because he is taken by another woman. Seriously, when I was single I could barely get a single girl to even notice me. Started dating my current gf about 2 months ago and suddenly 100 different women have hit on me, lots of them making it absolutely clear to me that they want to sleep with me. So my theory is that a lot of women out there have something built into there heads that makes them immediately more attracted to men who are no longer available. Ladies, any thoughts on this? Interesting theory, 100 different women you say? Making it clear they wanted to sleep with you? I suppose they're all out there right now throwing bras and underwear at your bedroom window, must be difficult to sleep with all that noise. Link to comment
dragonzeyez Posted August 31, 2008 Author Share Posted August 31, 2008 Interesting theory, 100 different women you say? Making it clear they wanted to sleep with you? I suppose they're all out there right now throwing bras and underwear at your bedroom window, must be difficult to sleep with all that noise. haha, obviously i am exaggerating. maybe it just seems that way. Link to comment
just M.E. Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Ok, I have been thinking this for a long time... I think a lot of women are attracted to guys more simply because he is taken by another woman. Seriously, when I was single I could barely get a single girl to even notice me. Started dating my current gf about 2 months ago and suddenly 100 different women have hit on me, lots of them making it absolutely clear to me that they want to sleep with me. So my theory is that a lot of women out there have something built into there heads that makes them immediately more attracted to men who are no longer available. Ladies, any thoughts on this? Murphy's Law of Attraction (works equally well on males and females) The number of attractive potential mating partners is directly proportional to the degree of your current relationship commitment. i.e. 0% commitment = 0 potential dates; 100% commitment = unlimited potential dating partners interested in you. I figured this one out 33 years ago!!! There is a good reason for this, happy couples are attractive and everyone secretly wants that happy guy or gal. Link to comment
Nixee Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I dunno.... I've not found this at all. Truthfully, I guess in this modern world, I get hit on two ways.... in person - out and about, at work, wherever.. and online. In person... the amount is about the same whether I am single or not. The interest is the same, the guys approach the same. I'm not married nor have I ever been, so there is no ring to stop anyone. I guess if I'm actually WITH a guy... THAT will usually stop another guy from hitting on me (er... unless its at a bar or something, ugh.. and thats kinda tacky, sadly, but has happened). Generally speaking though, if they ask and I say I'm taken... its a non-issue. Online.... if my status says "single" ... I generally get hit on a ton more than if it says I'm taken. I think thats a no-brainer though (though I've had a couple guys completely ignore the status before anyways hah) Link to comment
Jelina Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Yea I know what you mean. Especially younger girls. This is the same exact reason I never had a bf until after I finished high school. Link to comment
independantgal Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 I don't think a thought like that has ever crossed my mind. Sometimes, If I see an attractive guy with his girlfriend I'll think: "lucky B***h' lol! Although this doesnt make me more attracted to the guy...if anything...much less and I would never try it on with anyone that was clearly taken. Link to comment
george237 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 When you are single you are looking. When you are taken you are not looking. Women can sense the unavailableness from you and are drawn to what they can't have. If you make yourself seem somewhat unavailable when you are single then you will have the same respounse you are having now. Link to comment
Casanova Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Girls like what they can't have. They like the challenge, since most guys out there are so available and easy to get. It's boring for them. So they go for the challenge Link to comment
Tulip 128 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Ok, I have been thinking this for a long time... I think a lot of women are attracted to guys more simply because he is taken by another woman. Seriously, when I was single I could barely get a single girl to even notice me. Started dating my current gf about 2 months ago and suddenly 100 different women have hit on me, lots of them making it absolutely clear to me that they want to sleep with me. So my theory is that a lot of women out there have something built into there heads that makes them immediately more attracted to men who are no longer available. Ladies, any thoughts on this? people in relationships seem to have more confidence then people not in relationships. maybe these women that are coming onto you can see the confidence that you are giving off. confidence is a major turn-on. Link to comment
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