Andy_2007 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 When I read through the posts on these forums, the emotion i tend to see crop up time and time again is fear. Now, this is a break up forum so you'd think that the over-riding emotion would be love, right? Not so from what I can see. So many posters, both in fresh break ups and longer term ones are expressing more or less the same feelings over and over again. That of being afraid to be alone, afraid to be single. What would you say is one of the most important aspects in becoming a well-adjusted, mature and wise human being? I'd say it's the ability to face fears and overcome them. Whenever a person does this, they boost ego and self-confidence and earn a more balanced outlook on the world. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right? We are not improved or strengthened as individuals by the good things that happen to us, but only by the bad and the way we deal with them and come through them successfully. So here you are, heart broken and desperate for either get back with your ex or find someone new to replace them, to take away that feeling of loneliness and fear that grips your heart. Now, step outside yourself for an instant. Step away from your personal sense of grief and desperation and look at the situation more objectively. What is better for you right now? To get back with that ex, the person who's caused you such pain - or to find somebody new now to make you feel better and to boost your ego? OR Would it be better for you as an individual, better in the long term for your sense of self worth and maturity as a human being to be brave and stand alone, knowing that only by combating this fear you have on your own and relying on nobody else, you will become a stronger, more fearless and better person? Don't pick up that phone. Don't send that text message or email. Don't write that letter. Don't search desperately for somebody else. Don't get involved with the wrong person. Don't rebound. Stand by yourself. On your own. For you. 'nuff said. - Andy Link to comment
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