Heather.epps Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I am 18 years old and my husband of 2 years is 26. WE are a very happy couple. We both have great jobs and we have alot of amazing opputunites. We are doing really good for ourselves. But i believe that I am being too controlling. I wonder if he is really happy? He seems happy but deep down i wonder if he is aggravted with me. I dont want him to be unhappy but something is wrong with my attitude. It all really started a while back when he was smoking and I didnt know about it. He never said he did and then one day I questioned him and he said no his friends smoke so he was just around them. Then one time he was with all of his friends playing poker in our attic and came down with a cigg in his mouth and I called him out on it. He put it behind him and just acted like he didnt know what i was talking about. I grabbed his hand and seen it. I started crying and was upset, we got in a big agruement over it and he said he would stop. Then I found out again he was doing it a few months later bc there was ashes in his car. Another agruement. A few months later, it was now the superbowl and I went to his moms while he was watching it with buddies, I asked his mom when was the last time she seen him smoking. ANd she said umm 2 weeks ago. I was furious and came to where he was and snatched him and caused a scene : (. It was embarrasing for the both of us. That was the last incident. I could find out if i wanted to if he was still doing it but I am afraid he will get fed up and find someone else. He likes to hang out with his younger single friends that smoke pot (he doesnt) and ciggarettes and drink alot. I want him to be able to go and hang out but Ive went with him everytime and sat there bored out of my mind. Just being downright mean and rude to everyone : ( I dont know why I act like this. The only thing I do for myself is go meet up with friends on friday afternoons while he is at his second job for dinner. Its inocent and there isnt anything to worry about. He will call after work and want to go to chilis with guys from work or something. And instantly im furious. I dont know why. I didnt even want him to go and work out with a friend on weekdays. What is wrong with me? Why cant i let him be and have free time? Am i being too controlling? What do i need to do to give him more rope? Link to comment
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