annie24 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 sigh, just a little rant, i just have to get this off my chest. hope this doesn't bother you guys..... here goes..... for once, i'd like to date a man with money. there, i said it. i know i'm a moderator on this site, and i'm always saying, 'it's more important to have a good man than a rich guy who drives fancy cars and stuff.....' and i do mean that. i'm a graduate student myself, i don't make a lot of money. most of the guys i've dated the last few years haven't had a lot of money either. some have been students, like myself. others have been guys who either don't have a college education and have some sort of job that doesn't pay all that well, or some even with college educations, but they also don't have good paying jobs. in turn, many of these guys can be kind of cheap on dates, some to the point where it is inconsiderate. now, i always offer to help pay my share, always. but, if a guy's going to ask me on a date, i do wish that he'd come up with a plan. for example, one guy i dated 2 months ago..... he asked me out on a first date for dinner. we met downtown, where there are a lot of restaurants. he told me to choose a restaurant, so i chose the closest one, i went there a few years ago. well, the prices were kind of more expensive than i remembered. i wanted to get 1 glass of wine, but then he said, 'no - let's share a bottle, but the cheapest one.' i felt bad, once he told me that he makes even LESS money than i do, and the prices of the meals were expensive, so i suggested we split a pizza (the cheapest thing on the menu). he started telling me how in his home country, men there always take care of their gfs, and really look after them, and all that. when the bill came, his eyes got big, so i offered to split. we dated for a while, and i found out he was plenty selfish, in general. see, if a guy asks me on a date, and he is broke, i'd rather he come up with some kind of plan in advance. maybe a picnic on the lake? getting some ice cream? something like that..... not tell me to choose the restaurant, and then make me feel kind of bad about choosing a pricey one. i went out with a guy this week also. he's 34 and never went to college, and has some financial difficulties, he told me. at the end of the night, i offered to split the tab, and he said, 'uhhh.... no, i'll get it this time.' makes me think next time, i'll have to get the bill. (and yes, am a bit concerned about his lack of college). sigh. is it so wrong of me to want a guy who will pay for things, and not make me feel bad about it? maybe i should just stop feeling bad about it, and not even bother to reach for my purse on the first few dates. Link to comment
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