Azual Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I strongly dislike being jealous. I'd like to let that be known, right off the bat. Secondly, I am posting from an iphone, due to my computer being crashed. I feel like I need to project... Perhaps garner some advice... So please excuse misspellings or grammatical errors. Thanks. I am 17 years old and a recent High School Graduate. I also recently started dating my ex of roughly a month and a half, five days ago (Monday, noonish). My girlfriend is 14 years old. Some say it's a bridge too far to gap. I disagree, but - of course - my opinion is... Quite biased. She's emotionally strong, she's quite mature when compared to her friends (though there are those who are more mature than she), and she's intelligent. At the time I boldly walked up to her, kissed her full-on and asked if she'd take me back, I was not the only guy attempting to win her over. I have a feeling only my bold action and the fact that we still deeply care for each other is the reason we're dating today. I trust my girlfriend to do what's right. However, I have a general mistrust of people. I've been hurt. There is another guy who hung out with us today and it is known that he likes her. Right off the bat of meeting him, I felt jealous with him just being there. I hated it and retreated within myself. Tonight I spent 3 hours with my girlfriend, talking about her ex's, what happened. What I can do to be the guy she fell for. She assures me of a great deal of things... Mainly that she still cares very deeply for me. We are exclusive, and this other guy knows this. However he decided to drop by unexpectedly and unannounced today. After him and I left (my gf and her friend were getting picked up by friend's dad, who dislikes most guys) I was pent up... I couldn't eat, couldn't enjoy a movie. I was short fused with everyone. So I spent three hours with her, talking and kissing and blah blah. Lots of talking. She says I have no reason to be jealous, that she is with me and not him. I understand that. I agree. But her friend took her phone and told me that this guy had texted her throughout the day, professing her feelings for her. Part of me wishes I didn't know. Part of me is glad that I found out, but unhappy my gf didn't tell me. A larger part, my jealous side; Wonders why she didn't say anything... And instantly the flood comes. Maybe she likes attention. Okay, okay. Who doesn't. Then comes Why doesn't she tell him to knock it off? He knows I exist, that she chose me over him. Then the kicker... Why didn't she tell me? A friend of mine tells me it's natural. It's jus hormones and a male dominance thing. But she isn't property, and I'd never treat her as such. She knows this. Maybe I just don't understand the need for attention. My self confidence has never been higher than when Ive been with her, but Im still jealous. She's smart, witty, mature, attractive... I know guys are gonna hit on her. But I don't wanna show that Im jealous. Better yet, I don't want to be jealous. If anyone can toss a light on this... What I can do about my own jealously issues or the other guy... I would greatly appeciate it. Thanks Link to comment
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