lizabeth Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I didnt really know where this should go, so i just stuck it under relationships in general. I feel kinda stupid posting here, but i really need some objective advice. About three months ago i came out of a relatively long relationship, about a year. (im 18, so it seemed like ages to me anyway) It was a pretty messy breakup for numerous reasons. Anyway that isnt the issue, that is just background knowledge. A month or so ago i was talking to a good friend, Reece, and we both discovered that we had feelings for each other, but i didnt want to get involved in another relationship so soon after the last, and besides he was leaving on holidays a couple of days afterwards, so we left it open ended. He's been on holidays for about a month and wont be back for about 2 or 3 weeks, but we talk every night. But that isnt the problem either, the problem is that i talk to this guy in America, Scott. We've known each other for about a year or so, and after my break up we started flirting a fair bit via msn and phone, and doing some other stuff But i never really took it seriously, i mean he lives in america....and im in australia. He knew that it wasnt serious (i made sure he did), but he's always wanted to get out of America, and after he discovered how much more teachers are paid over here he decided to come and finish his degree over here. So it's all settled, he's coming mid next year, in about 11 months. Thus my dilema. Scott likes me a lot, and i have to say that i like him as well. Which for me is very confusing, how is it possibly to really really like two guys at the same time? Reece is coming back in a few weeks, and we'd be able to be together properly, i like him a lot, and he's told me that he loves me. But im going to university next year, it's a long way away from here, and i dont know that we'd last. Scott on the other hand is thousands of miles and 11 months away, but when he gets here we'd be going to the same university and there is a chance that we'd work out. (i know that although there are plenty of other logical reasons for him moving to australia, im the main motivation) But i dont want a long distance relationship, and what if we didnt last the 11 months until he got here or what if it didnt work out once he gets here. I dont want to miss out on anything special with Reece, but by the same token i dont know if Scott would be able to wait around to find out. At the moment im in a quasi relationship with both of them, and i dont want to do that. It makes me feel like such a * * * * . Reece would be the safer bet for now at least, and he's such a great guy, we get along so well. But a relationship with Scott, though riskier and far less conventional would possibly be more rewarding in the long run. He understands things really well and cheers me up so much when im depressed, which has been happening a lot recently. (but that is another problem entirely) Anyway, i know that was a long winded story, for which i am sorry. But i really need some objective advise on the subject, all of my friends are entirely biased on it. In any case writing it all out has at least helped me to get my mind a little clearer. Link to comment
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