enlightenme Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 My boyfriend has called me by the wrong name twice. Once when we first started dating so I let it slide because we hadn't been together very long. Now we have been together 4 months, and I know that isn't very long. But, we made the decision not to date anyone else almost immediately. A week ago he called me by the wrong name again. It's his female friend's name that he dated before. I can't help but feel hurt. Any thoughts? We have been having some other problems pop up here lately.. so is this a mountain out of a mole-hill? New growing pains and I should get over it? Thanks. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I think you should get over it. Unless something else is wrong in the relationship. Link to comment
pianoguy Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Were you having sex at the time? Otherwise, yes, you are making a mountain out of a molehill. It's just a slip-up. I've called my boyfriend by my brother's name before but it certainly doesn't mean I want to date my brother. Link to comment
xItalianxPrincessx Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 i would be bothered! what was his excuse both times???? id be a lil suspicious of that relationship Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Yes,unless it is sex, other wise my husband calls me by his sister's name and sometimes he calls her honey.......LOL.....just a brain fart.......LOL Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 i would be botered! what was his excuse both times???? id be a lil suspicious of that relationship Oh, come on, I call people by the wrong name all the time. It just happens. It's really not that big of a deal.... unless of course, there is some other problem in the relationship. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Don't make a big deal out of it now...however if it keeps happening then there might be cause for concern. When someone cares about you they should not routinely get your name wrong. So just wait and see what happens. You have only been together four months, that is still not long enough for real solid bonds to take hold. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Yes,unless it is sex, other wise my husband calls me by his sister's name and sometimes he calls her honey.......LOL.....just a brain fart.......LOL I used to call my bf my dog's name all the time. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 hmm, I think that after four months, he should be at least getting your name right.... Link to comment
D_Lish Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I used to call my bf my dog's name all the time. lol, yeah but you live with your dog and have contact with your dog on a daily basis, so yeah you can be excused from calling your bf by its name lol... lets hope this guy isn't doing it for same reason..... Link to comment
greywolf Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 It's just a habit. Sometimes my boss gets mixed up and calls me the name of his former assistant. -.- And sometimes I call people babe by accident. Link to comment
enlightenme Posted August 29, 2008 Author Share Posted August 29, 2008 Thanks to everyone for responding. I just let him know it was bothering me. He said he was sorry and that he does this often even with members of his family. So, there are other issues but, I am going to make another post for those later. And I agree I just need to monitor the situation a little longer before feeling really hurt by it. I think it was just felt like a slap in the face because for me I feel like we have made some close bonds. But, my bonds to him are closer than his are to me. It is just going to take him longer than it does for me. We aren't on the same page yet. I think this made me realize it. That's what made me sad. So I will back up a bit and see what happens. Thanks to all of you. Link to comment
enlightenme Posted August 29, 2008 Author Share Posted August 29, 2008 oh, and it wasn't during sex LOL thank god. I think I know the answer to that one.... Link to comment
redhearts Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I think hes not over her, or he may be around her a lot that hes a bit confusy. Link to comment
Jelina Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I would be extremely offended if my bf referred to me as his ex. It would make me wonder if he still thinks about her. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I've done this before. Even after being with my SO a year i called him my ex's name. I think even once when it was longer than a year. I was with my ex a long time and it was mere force of habit and meant nothing. i had NO thoughts of my ex. IT was just one of those slips of confusion. I can tell you firsthand it does NOT always mean they are thinking of the ex. I had ZERO romantic interest for my ex at all. It was simply an old habit that the name came out of my mouth. Link to comment
doyathink Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I used to call my bf my dog's name all the time. I do that with my daughter. I call her my dogs name, and call my dog my daughters name! lol...it's just dementia! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I do that with my daughter. I call her my dogs name, and call my dog my daughters name! lol...it's just dementia! My mother has 3 daughters. I have been called everything from my 2 sister's names to my 2 dog's names to my step-dad's name.... and then finally she usually just calls me "child number 1"..... Link to comment
doyathink Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 My mother has 3 daughters. I have been called everything from my 2 sister's names to my 2 dog's names to my step-dad's name.... and then finally she usually just calls me "child number 1"..... My mom does this too. Are you sure you're not my sister here posting? lol She's even called me my rotten brothers name. She goes down the list till she gets it right. lol But I do the same thing. I call my son my ex husband....I call my son by evil brothers name... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 My mom does this too. Are you sure you're not my sister here posting? lol She's even called me my rotten brothers name. She goes down the list till she gets it right. lol But I do the same thing. I call my son my ex husband....I call my son by evil brothers name... My sisters usually refer to me as "The Devil". At least they think it's funny...... Link to comment
DN Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I try and avoid using names because I get them wrong so often. Link to comment
doyathink Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I try and avoid using names because I get them wrong so often. hahaha....me too..now. I just call everyone babe. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 When I am frustrated I call my son every name but his and I say, when I get to your name and you know who you are, you are in trouble! LOL Link to comment
Mallam23 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I wouldn't make a big issue out of it unless it kept happening all the time. Then I would inquire what was going on. I'd also look for other signs of possible cheating. But people make mistakes like that all the time. So I wouldn't freak out because it could simply be a mistake. Hey don't feel bad.... I've been called another name during sex. Now that was painful haha. Link to comment
h0pelessr0mantic Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 I don't know, sounds kind of odd since it has been 4 months already, he should have gotten it out of his system by then. One of my past boyfriends called me by another girls name (it was also a girl he "used" to date). Turns out he was actually still dating her, and me, at the same time. Link to comment
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