bubbledot Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Just a simple question. This will be the 4th time I will have gone out with this guy I am dating. We have done the whole dinner/movie thing and it's getting old IMO. I was thinking of inviting him to my place and just hanging out there. Does that seem too forward/revealing for the 4th date? oh and by the way, there isn't a whole lot to do in my area... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 he might think 'yes, i'm getting some.' or he could get nervous. who knows. up to you. maybe suggest something else? unless you want to get some too. lol Link to comment
george237 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Why not make him dinner? I love when girls do that, unless its meatloaf. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I was thinking of inviting him to my place and just hanging out there Definition/translation please - expectations? For me, forth date and she invites me back to her place...that means a "probably getting some" unless I make a total blunder. Link to comment
redhearts Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Ya better to have him come over for dinner instead of come over. Because just coming over gives the wrong impression lol. Then again he could think that your making him dinner so he should put out because you are. Really theres no mini golf there or arcades?! Link to comment
ATG Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Hello, Well I think it's all about the way he thinks and how you two interact. Because, basically, yeah, he'll imagine he might get some. He might be right too... And is it wrong? No, I don't think so. And also, even if it was the 5th date, or 6th or 7th, he'd still think he's getting some if you invite him over, so yeah you can't avoid that. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that really. Link to comment
kuhl282000 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Steaks on the grill your place ..... Link to comment
D_Lish Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Definition/translation please - expectations? For me, forth date and she invites me back to her place...that means a "probably getting some" unless I make a total blunder. LOL Well what guys think they are gonna get and what they get, are two different things. I'd treat him to a candle lit dinner at my place. No doubt and because it would be a romantic setting, he will defo assume he is in...lol. Then it's how to get rid of them afterwards, without offending. But then a guy who respects you, would automatically get up to leave and say his goodbyes and say thankyou for a nice evening... Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Steaks on the grill your place ..... and a twice baked potato Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Just a simple question. This will be the 4th time I will have gone out with this guy I am dating. We have done the whole dinner/movie thing and it's getting old IMO. I was thinking of inviting him to my place and just hanging out there. Does that seem too forward/revealing for the 4th date? oh and by the way, there isn't a whole lot to do in my area... Guys should never assume they are getting any. If he starts something, just put on the breaks. How about pizza and a movie? Link to comment
george237 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Guys should never assume they are getting any. If he starts something, just put on the breaks. How about pizza and a movie? Well it is always in our heads if you bring us back to your place. We might not act on it depending on your body language but it's there the entire time. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Well it is always in our heads if you bring us back to your place. We might not act on it depending on your body language but it's there the entire time. Are you serious????? Link to comment
Karmageddon Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Why don't you guys go play pool or something like that where you can interact? Make a few side bets, you know? LOL!! Link to comment
george237 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Are you serious????? yup, at least for me. I can't remember a time I was invited over for the first time that I didn't get any. Now if I invited her over my house I wouldn't be thinking that as much. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 LOL Well what guys think they are gonna get and what they get, are two different things. ... True that!!!! However...4th date, the invite over...somethings going on for sure. I mean, really??? I am doing a personal inventory in my head right now and yep...statistics are good. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Are you serious????? Oh allie, if you knew how we really thought then you'd be shocked...of course the same goes for women as well... Link to comment
Batya33 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Do a day date and go on a hike and pack a picnic. Link to comment
redhearts Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Go get yogurt=]. Or tell him that the whole movie and dinner thing is getting old, that you want to do something a little different. Link to comment
bubbledot Posted August 29, 2008 Author Share Posted August 29, 2008 Definition/translation please - expectations? For me, forth date and she invites me back to her place...that means a "probably getting some" unless I make a total blunder. OK. Thanks for letting me know this, lol.....I had no idea. I was just thinking we would have some snacks like popcorn and watch a movie on the couch. I'm not planning on "getting some", but my guess is that things might get a little bit intimate. Hmm...guess I need to think of some other stuff to do that's NOT at my place. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 ^^^^ well, you could always have "the talk" before he comes over. It really depends on the dynamic of the dating, weather you've had some intimacies already of any kind. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 hmm..i brought the guy who liked to check out other chicks back to my place .... uuuuuuh on the 5th meeting i think it was? yeah, pretty much led to sex. oh wait! he came over 2 times before that and there was no hanky panky ... im sure he assumed there would be but nah. i was the one for pushed for the sex anyways ... hahahha .... it had been a couple months ... what can i say? lol Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Oh allie, if you knew how we really thought then you'd be shocked...of course the same goes for women as well... I invited my current BF over for dinner and it didn't lead to sex. Now I wonder what he was really thinking...... Link to comment
Batya33 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I invited my current BF over for dinner and it didn't lead to sex. Now I wonder what he was really thinking...... I have done the same for a fourth or fifth date but if we haven't discussed my stance on sex then I do discuss it before I invite him to my home for the first time or before I go to his home for the first time so that there is no akwardness. Link to comment
bubbledot Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Here's an update on what actually happened. He lives an hour away so I thought this time I'd go down to his area. We wound up going out and then going back to his place. Nothing happened really...we watched a movie and cuddled. Ok, well we kissed too He did want me to stay later...but I wound up going home that night. Now, next time I think I might invite him over to mine...but I think we should definitely have "the talk", lol. Link to comment
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