knightingale Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Is that really possible? Let's say you're a smoker. You enjoy smoking. You meet someone who does not approve, so in order to keep them around you decide you'll quit for them. However, it's not something you personally want to do, you just don't want to lose the person because of it. Can you actually make that change long lasting or would you eventually fall back into the habit because you did it for the wrong reason? That's just an example. I am talking about anything here, whether it be a personality trait, a hobby, eating habits, political views, religious views, pot smoking/other drugs, drinking etc. Anything. I don't have a personal reason for asking this, it just seems like a lot of people, especially at my age when they are still "finding themselves" and growing up, seem to depend on another person to change them, and I don't think it's possible or healthy to go about it that way. I think if you're going to change something about you, it's something you and you alone want to change and something that only you can change. It just seems that if you think someone is going to change you or you are changing for them, the results will be short lasting or you will resent them down the line. Discuss. Link to comment
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