TheButterfly Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 I really, really want to let him go, but I have no idea how to actualy do it. I've done all I can think of, but still i'm trapped in the vicious circle of thoughts in my head. In regards to the old relationship I have: * forgiven him for leaving me for someone else. * forgiven him for not even trying to work it out. * wished him every happiness in life, whoever he's with. And all of these things I truly mean with all my heart. He was a very special person who deserves the best in life. (But he handled this situation terribly!) And for me I have: * carried on with my life * started dating and meeting new people * I no longer imagine him in my future * I'm making future plans for myself only But, I'm still haunted by the knowledge that I lost someone I really loved and wanted to spend my life with. There's a bit of regret in there too. Could I have done things differently etc... This post was prompted by a thread in the getting back together forum: and the below post was made in response to MissKitty16's question about letting go. Page 3. I realise now that i'm just faking 'letting go'. I'm still holding on. I still care and worry about the outcome of all this, will he change his mind, did he ever really love me etc... I also keep thinking about his new relationship. How do I stop the negativity and let go? This is exactly my point. By letting go I mean really letting go. It doesn't matter if he knows or not. This is the law of nature. When you don't let go, you are constantly worrying and double guessing and basically sending negative thoughts and energy if you will, out there. So you are unknowingly attracting more negative things to you. When you really let it go (no longer think and worry about it in a negative way, you might still think about it but you basically don't care about the outcome) and you start to feel better about yourself then you are doing the exact opposite and thats when it happens. By then you may not even care anymore which is the best feeling. Feeling of power and being in control! I hope you don't mind me using your quote Tabbi. Link to comment
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