LAYAAN Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Hello all, Here is a new situation I'm facing. Met a guy on a dating site. Talked to him x3 on voice chat. His profile states that he has graduated with an engineering degree from a very prestigious school (He did mention the name of the school), divorced (1st marriage was only 4-5 months, he said that his wife admitted to have an affair before marriage with someone and still was in love with that man). By 3rd talk, he said that he has had 1-night stands during his college (in his country), but not while he was married, and again after he came to the US. He said that he did it while his divorce proceeding was still going on in his country. I asked "did you pay for sex?" Him "kinda" (I took it as yes). The guy didn't seem to really feel sorry about all this. His explanation "Everyone does it. I can gurantee that it won't happen while in marriage. I didn't know what else to do. I was really depressed about my divorce. I got married, couldn't keep the girl in marriage with me, I'm shy, so even if I understand that I should get a gf n do it with her in a committed relationship, I don't have those skills. So, what else can I do? so I did it this way. and this way is better b'coz it won't come back to bite you. The last encounter was a few months ago and I'm not happy to do things this way, thats why I want to get married quickly." I'm stumped by this. What the hell does this all mean? Should I forgive the man b'coz he has now come clean? or should I take this as a warning sign that the man has no control over his sex drive? I'm now concerned if he has contracted any diseases. He is not much into having kids. He did talk about adoption and asked me my views (I'm not hung up on having kids either but not b'coz I've health issues. Its just that I'm not settled yet.) Please help me understand. Thank you for your time. Link to comment
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