madmarten Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 Hmm, I have lot of thoughts and I really don't know where to start. This is my first ENA rant. So this is part rant, part question, and part exposition. Warning this could get deep. Ok background, I have been dating my gf since say Dec 07. We are in graduate school, well actually she just graduated with her PhD. Well we thought she was going to stay here for a post-doc, as she had not gotten a job offer yet. Well, she got an offer in july, for a company in Silicon Valley. We talked about and she really wanted to take the job and continue the relationship. I have another year to 18 months before I finish (although a benefit is this will provide motive for me to finish ASAP). She said she would be willing to fly me out there once a month. I agreed and said that it only makes sense though if we plan to marry. (Is this crazy?) She said she understood this and wanted to do this (marry). Ok this whole conversation happened very suddenly. Would most people break-up or stay together? Part of me wants (albeit a small part now) wants to break up and see what else is out there. But I am 30 about turn 31 later this year, I do want to get married and have a family some day and well the clock is ticking. And the thing is dating has been very difficult for me. I have been looking consistently for a relationship for three years, and this girl is the only one who I feel has been attracted to me. Pretty much she is the only girl who has agreed to continue seeing me after 4-5 dates with out disappearing or giving me the “friends” speech. I like her a lot and care very much about her, But at first I worried that I was not physically attracted to her enough, but now I realize well actually she is isn’t bad considering the league of chicks that I even have a chance with. I am attracted to her personality and she is a quality person. One thing that really helps though is she is crazy about me. Is it normal in relationships where one partner is more physically attracted to the other partner, or is it always equal? I mean if I had 3 exes calling me and 3 on stand by it would be different, but if it is going to take another 3 years, well %^&*……………… Idk, I feel a little angry and disappointed, did I just miss the opportunity to play the field. Guys brag on here about not remembering how many chicks they have, and I can barely get one. Am I giving up by staying with her? Sometimes I feel I don’t even know what normal is. Just looking for a little advice and support. Link to comment
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