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Well I can only see how writing lists about the reasons why (in your mind only) you will "never find love' is not doing you any good. If you are happy with the way you are, then fine, but everything you write about screams of unhappiness & is so very forlorn. Living life like that does nothing but continue to spiral downward. You are 25, I am 39, I have about 600 more reasons to be depressed about my situation than you have for yours. Its a big world, there is someone out there for you, but if you are not prepared for them, then you may miss out.

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Never seems to work that way though. And other than shyness when I do open up like I said I can be pretty cool. No joke I went to my junior prom with one of the most popular girls in school. I was her backup when her original flaked, but you get the idea.

 

Man, you're bringing tears to my eyes, stop it!!

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SchecterGuy Enthusiast

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Like Mutley said, I guess its in the nature. I have seen it in my family. My Grandpa is moving in with my parents and I am seriously worried about my Mom's health becase of this. He is not mean like in the shouting way, but he is so negative and condescending that with my Mom's health I do not know how she will take it.

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Never seems to work that way though. And other than shyness when I do open up like I said I can be pretty cool. No joke I went to my junior prom with one of the most popular girls in school. I was her backup when her original flaked, but you get the idea.

 

Well, then, not to be harsh, but it obviously has nothing to do with your looks, so, it's gotta be your attitude & the way you portray yourself. But, you aren't interested in other options concerning that, so I guess thats it then??

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Awww DUDE!! You are adorable. It just makes me that much more pissed at ya though. Cute guy, sittin around whinin. What the hell!?

For some reason that made me feel really good. Maybe it is because it is from a nuetral party. And I am open to what needs to be done. I just do not really know what to do. I go out with people. I am not a hermit. Lately I have been, but thats because I have had to pack and move at the same time. I have been real busy. But I do go out. I hang out with people. So I am definitely not a shut in.

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Your ex was a "neutral party" before the two of you got involved. You dated before then as well..

 

I think you're just intimidated by women you are attracted to...that's based on what you've said, and lots of guys are. I don't care how beautiful physically someone is, women are just human beings.

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Your ex was a "neutral party" before the two of you got involved. You dated before then as well..

 

I think you're just intimidated by women you are attracted to...that's based on what you've said, and lots of guys are. I don't care how beautiful physically someone is, women are just human beings.

Bingo... We have a winner. There are some other things, but yeah.

 

And actually me and the ex never really dated. We just kind of slept together then went fromn there.

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So what you're really worried about is meeting someone, dating them, impressing them enough to want to be in a relationship with you...

 

I can tell you that a lot of people do just sort of fall into a relationship. I'm not advocating that, or knocking it, but it seems to happen a lot.

 

There's nothing to be intimidated about. Smile at every one you see. Practice speaking with women you don't know that you aren't attracted to. There's a million ways to get comfortable. But i wouldn't try to force anything.

 

You've heard it a billion times, i'm sure, but the worst anyone can say is "No." Not every woman is going to be attracted to you no matter what you look like, or what kind of personality you have. There's 7 billion people on the planet. If, at 25, you think none of them will ever want to be with you or love you, then there's something wrong that no amount of logic will ever be able to fix.

 

By the way, i'm not sure what is considered heavy metal today...but when i was into it when i was younger - more than half the women at the concerts were women. Why is it you think you can't be yourself and attract someone? you've done it before, obviously.

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Heavy metal is very different today. Far from the hair metal days. It is very heavy and very morbid now.

 

Its mainly opportunity. When I was in school there was so much forced interaction with girls my age. I lived in the dorms. So people would be hanging out in the halls at any given hour. There were classes with group work. I tutored for awhile. It was a much more relaxed environment. I never met girls at parties, bars, or clubs or anything. It was always in the dorms. Sad to say, but girls were also probably more naive then. The environment was simpler and the people were simpler.

 

And I think girls can like me. I went on a couple of dates and one girl really likes me, but I just did not feel it. It was one of those pictures can only tell so much. Plus it seems she has family drama. Its almost more of the chance of equal sparks where I will like her as much as she likes me. I just get the feeling it will be one or the other.

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