Boomer Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 i started dating a girl end of march. Everything was good but once in while she asked me " Do u like me?" I reassured her I did. in mid July on friday I talked to her on the phone we talked and then she says " I do not think you like me much but you are not telling me" I answered " Why would I call you if I did not like u?" So I got upset and hungup. Called her next monday and left message she did not call me back. Called her on saturday and wanted to talk to her . She is " if you wanted you could have found me. I am busy and cant talk right now" Then I saw her on birthday party later in the evening and I told her " I miss u". She replied " too late". That is it. She sent me a sms on my birthday in august and that is it. Not sure what I have done wrong? I want to call her but at the same time I do not want because I think it is done lost deal. and definitely I do not want to be friends. Do you guys think that she should reply to my call if she cared about relationship.. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 she clearly cares nothing more anymore. you blew it somehow. move on. Link to comment
Boomer Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 is there a way to figure out what it is so I do not blew it next time? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 find a girl that is more direct and less beating around the bush with you. and well, you did hang up on her in anger. she might not have liked that. but the way she makes it seem is that you had a window of opportunity to fix it and you didn't. so she is completely over you it seems. and for future, be more sure of yourself. don't ask if they like you. Link to comment
Boomer Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 She was asking me if I like her not the other way around ... Yeah I agree sometimes I react they I should not but we all humans and react differently Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 live and learn man. she seems indecisive. Link to comment
DN Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 It's enough to know she either plays games or is too demanding. I would move on and be glad you dodged that bullet. Link to comment
l0velife Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 she seems insecure...the way she tried to make herself believe you didn't like her. Maybe she had someone else and she was trying to find an excuse to push you away. It could be a lot of things but she kind of left you in the dark...maybe you didn't chase her enough. Link to comment
Mallam23 Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 To me she sounds very insecure and it sounds like she is playing "chase me" games to feel wanted. That's the feeling I got out of what you wrote. I could be completely wrong but that's a game I've seen many people play before. Link to comment
Darkness_Falls Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 You hung up on her when she was having a sensitive moment. She was insecure about herself. I have had this issue and my boyfriend was absolutely brilliant with it. I am fine nowadays but had he just hung up on me one time when I was trying to see where the relationship was going, I wouldn't bother with him either. A lot of girls can be insecure for whatever reason. If a girl is asking if you like her she obviously needs some reassurance. Link to comment
Boomer Posted August 27, 2008 Author Share Posted August 27, 2008 I agree I should hold my horses. I understand if girl asks " do u like me" but she said " I do not think you like me and you are not telling me the truth". Sounds completely different... Link to comment
Boomer Posted August 27, 2008 Author Share Posted August 27, 2008 I absolutely agree I should not have hung up and acted on impulse but it feels that she will always will doubt my affection to her and always question it and I always have to prove to her.. To me that does not sound healthy but I might be wrong. I am 30 and she is 23 BTW Link to comment
Boomer Posted October 21, 2008 Author Share Posted October 21, 2008 an update: I deleted her from facebook list and she sent me an email after couple of months: "seriously, why did you delete me from facebook list , come on" so I looked at her profile and violated NC and saw she has pictures with dude right after we got into argument( july). So the accusation of me not having feelings for her is just an excuse for her to cause breakup and hook up with the dude. So it looks like I wanted to break up and she is innocent. DAMN I am angry and fuming. Sorry I had to vent and better do it here and not somewhere else. Link to comment
Boomer Posted October 21, 2008 Author Share Posted October 21, 2008 Facebook and internet - Very tempting ways to break NC. need to stay away from these Link to comment
Boomer Posted October 21, 2008 Author Share Posted October 21, 2008 Why people lie and cannot be upfront about their feelings? and then send you messages for unknown reason . WHY? Link to comment
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