justshine Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 For those that dont know I have been back with my gf for a few weeks now to after a short break up. Things have been going pretty good for the most part when we're together. However I have been finding myself a bit stressed over the relationship the last few days. It started when she went away on a trip a week ago for a day. She tried texting me numerous times to check up on me and see how I was doing however I didnt get them because my phone was broken. It then started working again when she got back and I think she felt I was ignoring her. I say this because ever since then shes been ignoring quite a few of my texts and the communication hasnt been as good. Just today she told me she would text me when she got home from work and I never ended up hearing from her. Now I dont know if this is just because of a lack of interest and shes getting tired of the relationship again, but a large part of me feels she is still retaliating from what happened a week ago. It probably annoys me more then it should when she does this but it just gets to me so much and I take it personal. I would love to hear from you guys on how some of you would handle this and what some good approaches would be to deal with this. Link to comment
redhearts Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Did you explain that your phone broke? Link to comment
justshine Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 Did you explain that your phone broke? yes I did but I guess it looked a bit sspicous as it started working as soon as she got back. Also I notice the times that she ignores me is when I dont get back to her right away. I just feel like its games were playing and it just stress me out. Link to comment
justshine Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 I just feel like she must not care about the relationship if she just neglects contacting when she said she would. I dont know if Im overreacting or not. Do you guy think I should bring it up to her how this has been bothering me or just it give it time and let it slide for now? Link to comment
Rising Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 If communication goes, then you guys are in big trouble. You should try to sit her down and talk to her about the things you are worried about. Just be open and honest and ask her to be straight up with you. Good luck Link to comment
Frenchie23 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 If communication goes, then you guys are in big trouble. You should try to sit her down and talk to her about the things you are worried about. Just be open and honest and ask her to be straight up with you. Good luck Agree with Rising. Talk to her. Tell her what you feel. Tell her what you told us here. Tell her you want an honest and communicative relationship where no one plays games. That's it. You would have done your bit, and if this doesn't work, well, it's clearly not your fault. If she doesn't believe you and continues the game of not answering your messages, it's a waste of time -- relationships are not mind games. You love and respect each other, or you move on. Link to comment
justshine Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 thanks for the advice everyvody I am planing on bringing it up today. My question is how do I go about bringing this up without sounding too needy? As we still are in the early stages of being back together I dont want to say anything that will push her away right now Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 why didn't she call instead of texting? you got insurance on your phone? you need to get a new one then. i've never had a phone magically not work for a week. Link to comment
justshine Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 why didn't she call instead of texting? you got insurance on your phone? you need to get a new one then. i've never had a phone magically not work for a week. My phone is weird the battery just stops working at certain times and then it will start workin again out of nowhere. And shes more of a text person for some reason. Link to comment
Sarati Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 If you are suspicious, trust your gut. She's probably cheating on you. Sorry to be blunt, but if you had this worry about her before, things are not likely to change. People with sneaky tendencies will remain sneaky people. Not to be trusted. Trust your gut! Link to comment
Sarati Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Games, games, games. I cannot tell you how many times I have been through this. You are not needy! Somewhere along the line, you stopped listening to your instincts. This girl is playing games with you and, sorry to be blunt, but I don't believe your story about your phone not working. In this day and age, the way people rely on their phones, if your phone was really broken, you would have resolved that already. What all this amounts to is a huge waste of time for both of you. Stop, reassess, quit the games and have a mature relationship, or move on. It's that simple. Link to comment
Zampotne Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Yeah, your phone could still not be working- she could be texting you and you could not be getting them. Then you'd be worrying for nothing. Get a new phone. Or call each other. Link to comment
justshine Posted August 29, 2008 Author Share Posted August 29, 2008 Just an Update.. My phone is working great now! haha.. also I had a talk with and I can say communication really is key.. It wasnt just this one instance but she felt like I was ignoring her a few times lately and figured I didnt really want to talk to her thus leading to her not texting as much lol. I know it still does seem a bit immature still but she reailized that she need to mature and communicate more if she feels like that.. and I partly chalk it up to us both still being in our teens and not knowing the best way to deal with situations sometimes haha Link to comment
justshine Posted August 29, 2008 Author Share Posted August 29, 2008 If you are suspicious, trust your gut. She's probably cheating on you. Sorry to be blunt, but if you had this worry about her before, things are not likely to change. People with sneaky tendencies will remain sneaky people. Not to be trusted. Trust your gut! Im pretty sure its not that extreme but you never know I guess lol. And what what would make you think that she is? Because Ive never suspected anything like that really Link to comment
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