How old is too old?

[zenbabyk]

Does age really matter?

 

I'm starting to fall for someone who is 19 years older than me. I am 21. I must admit I am not your typical twenty-one year old, but and the end of the day... I am "just a baby" in his eyes.

 

I don't know, we have a lot of fun together, and we both really enjoy eachother's company. I have hung out with him and his friends, and he has met a couple of my friends. All of them think that it's weird.

 

A lot of people keep asking... what does a 40 year old man want to do with a 21 year old girl? But for some reason when we are together we don't really talk about age, or let it bother us.

 

If anyone has had any experience with an older person, or a younger person.. please lend me your advice!

[Atticus90]

I don't have any experience with older people, but I'm a guy and I can give you some advice from our point of view.

 

He may think younger girls are prettier. He may want to feel younger. Those types of things. I don't think he's some kind of raging pedophile if that's what you're worried about lol. I just think he enjoys your company and wants a younger prettier girl!

 

Good luck.

 

If I were 40 years old, I sure wouldn't be looking for someone older than me lol. I'd be looking for the younger ladies!

[lana111]

you are an adult and may pursue any relationship as you please. i dont know you or the guy so i can make any comments... but i will suggest- be very cautious.

[May_It_Be]

Does age really matter?

 

I'm starting to fall for someone who is 19 years older than me. I am 21. I must admit I am not your typical twenty-one year old, but and the end of the day... I am "just a baby" in his eyes.

 

I don't know, we have a lot of fun together, and we both really enjoy eachother's company. I have hung out with him and his friends, and he has met a couple of my friends. All of them think that it's weird.

 

A lot of people keep asking... what does a 40 year old man want to do with a 21 year old girl? But for some reason when we are together we don't really talk about age, or let it bother us.

 

If anyone has had any experience with an older person, or a younger person.. please lend me your advice!

 

Word of warning. You are probably his toy, used to combat an approaching mid-life crisis! Just keep that in mind.

[CaptainPlanet]

Yes 19 years age difference is too old.

[redhearts]

It really all depends on the relationship you two have together and what he sees it as either a prize a young tight girl who he can basically take advantage over. Or someone hes actually compatible with, but hes old enough to possibly be your dad.. POSSIBLY. Theres things that can come up such as kids, well basically being at two different stages in life. So thats nearly a 20 year difference. so you would still be with him being 25 and hes 45 nearly 50? or 30 and 50? You wouldn't care?

 

*dont take it in a bad way, I don't mean to be rude!

[SupaflyTNT]

Yes, it's weird.

[Brightest Dark]

I think in this day and age sometimes people look older or younger than their age and people who are 21 can look older than that. I personally think you shouldn't worry about age and just care about the connection that you have. If you get on great and gel really well then who cares about the age difference? If though, he is in any way demeaning or anything else that would give you cause to think the age difference could be too much, then maybe it's not so good. But if no issues come up and you really do get on wonderfully then age shouldn't matter. My friend was nearly 40 and madly in love with a girl of 19. He'd had an older girlfriend before her, but really fell in love with this younger girl. It was nothing he could control and he wasn't crazy or weird. I've liked a guy 10 years younger than me - although when I first became attracted to him I didn't know his age and thought he was older than he said he was. But it should be just about how well you get on together. If there are clashes due to the age then it's not so good. If everything is awesome, then who cares about your dates of birth?

[D_Lish]

Word of warning. You are probably his toy, used to combat an approaching mid-life crisis! Just keep that in mind.

 

Ditto.....

 

I know that at 21, I would never ever have been attracted to a guy of 40, heck I wouldn't be attracted to a guy 19 years older than me now (that would make him 51!!!!!)....but as someone else said, some people of 40 do look fab for their ages and do look younger these days.

[ghost69]

i notice on a lot of your threads you 'fall' for guys really fast. this guy is old. i mean old compared to you. it's kind of creepy. i don't even know how 40 year olds meet 19 year olds unless they approach women at their job or go to college bars or something. nuts.

 

if i'm single @ 40 i'll be trying with 19s though.

[confused25]

yeah 19 year difference is a bit too much for me.

 

Do you guys even have anything in common?

[ghost69]

yes, they are both humans. completely different generations.

[fIIsion]

My Mother was 18 when she met my Father, who at the time was 39.

They married a year later, and were together 30 years before she died.

 

I my own personal view is a little biased since I would not be alive if they hadn't of met.

[ghost69]

My Mother was 18 when she met my Father, who at the time was 39.

They married a year later, and were together 30 years before she died.

 

I my own personal view is a little biased since I would not be alive if they hadn't of met.

 

this was also during a different time in the century.

[D_Lish]

Well my dad was 35 when he met my mam and she was only 19!!! 16 year age gap!!

However, they aint together now...

 

Dad went on to meet another woman, 19 year age gap....

 

And still going strong with women half his age. He's an embarrassment

[ManAbout]

You are 21 years old. You are a grown, mature woman. The only person that can answer this question is you.

 

As per your post, you seem to have a connection with this man.

 

 

I don't know, we have a lot of fun together, and we both really enjoy eachother's company.

 

But for some reason when we are together we don't really talk about age, or let it bother us.

 

You know more about him and about yourself than any of us.

 

I would be very wary of any of the advice you get on this topic. Every body has their own agenda. Older women don't like this because they hate being overlooked by a guy their age in favour of a younger woman. Younger men don't like it either because the older guy is "fishing in their pond". So, make your own decision.

[ManAbout]

Word of warning. You are probably his toy, used to combat an approaching mid-life crisis! Just keep that in mind.

 

Riiiiight. Of course. When older women date younger men, they are empowered. They are held up as role models for other women. If Demi Moore can do it, so can you. You go girl! When it is an older man, he is just using the woman as a toy to combat a mid life crisis. Got it, makes perfect sense!

[ManAbout]

i notice on a lot of your threads you 'fall' for guys really fast. this guy is old. i mean old compared to you. it's kind of creepy. i don't even know how 40 year olds meet 19 year olds unless they approach women at their job or go to college bars or something. nuts.

 

if i'm single @ 40 i'll be trying with 19s though.

 

Yeah, a man is attracted to a grown up, attractive, mature, young woman. What a pervert! Run!

[just M.E.]

My uncle's wife is over 20 yrs younger than him, my cousin is now 27, they seem to be OK with it, over 30 yrs of marriage.

[calidreamin0]

he is probably very immature for his age.

 

i just dated a 35 year old, and i am 23. i thought that was too old.

 

but if things are good... then just roll with it. but yes, be cautious...because think about it...why is this man single at 40???

[renaissancewoman101]

To me, I see nothing wrong with dating a man older than you. I think older guys are cool and have a better understanding of relationships and how to treat a girl. I have dated older guys and liked it. To me, age has no relevance, when it comes to dating.

[zenbabyk]

Right! I thought about it... and I don't think age really matters. I think it's the connection you have with a person, not the years inbetween.

 

I have thought about what does a 40 year old want to do with a 21 year old? At my age my mom was married. Her marriage did not work out. He could have gotten married at my age, but he didn't. He decided to focus more on his career instead of jumping ahead of himself and creating a family.

He was engaged for awhile, but I guess they had their differences.

 

Ahh... I think I really like him.

 

My older sister and my mom do not approve. This really sucks

[renaissancewoman101]

Do you need your sister and mom's approval to date him? You're an adult. Do what you want. If he's a good guy and treats you well, then go for it. Age is age.

[KG]

Just take it slow...YOUR slow. Not his. Maybe a conquest, a notch. Maybe a mid-life. Maybe not. But DO NOT let him into your pants until you are sure there is more to him than just "into him." This coming from a 54 year old male...who hasn't been intimate in 2 years.

Cover your heart,.....

[May_It_Be]

My Mother was 18 when she met my Father, who at the time was 39.

They married a year later, and were together 30 years before she died.

 

I my own personal view is a little biased since I would not be alive if they hadn't of met.

 

 

Just seems so "old world" to me. In ancient times, and even today in certain misogynist third world cultures, often young girls were given as wives, concubines, or slaves to old men. But good grief, isn't this the 21st century??!! Sorry, but old men need to stick with women their own age ... young girls serve only as a flagrant and perverted ego stroke.

 

Besides, when you're young and beautiful, don't you DESERVE a similarly young and beautiful partner??? I say, most enthusiastically, YES!!! You will have the rest of your life to be with an older man. You're young. Enjoy a young stud!

 

Oy. Don't know why I'm getting so worked up over this right now. LOL.