I dont feel anything sometimes

[Blackhawk2009]

I have been dating this girl i met for about a month now and i feel as if im not really attracted to her. Sometimes I am and sometimes i'm not and i dont know why. For example when we hang out I will have a good time and stuff, sometimes its just the two of us or sometimes its me and her and some of my friends all hanging out together. But when i'm not with her i dont really miss her and can go throughout the day without thinking about her much at all.

 

She went on a 5 day vac to canada and the whole time i didn't really miss her, she kept on asking me if I did but i lied to her and said i did when i really didnt much at all. Is it normal to not get the jittery feeling when im with her and to not really miss her when shes gone??

 

She constantly texts me throughout the day, do you think that could be why?? Also she likes me so much more than i like her and i feel that is not good at all. Its not that i dont like her its just im not attracted to her as much as i want to be for some reason.

 

maybe its the fact that she likes me so much that turns me off

 

any opinions or help would be much appreciated..thanks

 

and ill add more info upon request

[ghost69]

if you know for sure you aren't attracted to someone, don't pursue them.

[jettison]

I'd say that you're probably just not all that attracted to her to begin with. That's the start of your problems. Next, she's put a voice to her being more attracted to you then you are to her. That ends up puting this weird pressure on you that makes her less attractive still. And when you know that she will always call, will always text, will always pursue then what's there to miss or feel anxiety about? You are sure of her feelings 100%. She likes you so much that she is willing to be with you even if she knows you don't like her all that much. That makes you lose a little respect for her, and thereby, , she becomes less attractive still.

 

Unfortunately, in this game, there aren't a lot of winners.

[Blackhawk2009]

I'd say that you're probably just not all that attracted to her to begin with. That's the start of your problems. Next, she's put a voice to her being more attracted to you then you are to her. That ends up puting this weird pressure on you that makes her less attractive still. And when you know that she will always call, will always text, will always pursue then what's there to miss or feel anxiety about? You are sure of her feelings 100%. She likes you so much that she is willing to be with you even if she knows you don't like her all that much. That makes you lose a little respect for her, and thereby, , she becomes less attractive still.

Unfortunately, in this game, there aren't a lot of winners.

 

that makes so much sense, i had somewhat thought of that too but the way you put it makes sense

[girl68]

When 1 person likes the other more, it will lead to the one who has the stronger feelings more needy, clingly and overbearing all in attempt to make you (the other party) feel the same. When this happens you will start to feel some resentment. Not good.

 

If you don't ever see yourself feeling like she does, then quit now. You've already started lying to her... the fact that you did so easily doesn't convince anyone including yourself that you really like this girl enough to continue. And that's fine, as long as you realize this and quit now!

[Hope_Springs_Eternal]

kindness costs nothing.

 

be kind to her and let her down gently. Its going to hurt x

[Blackhawk2009]

yea it sucks more because her mom is my dentist and i sort of met her through her, even tho she actually hunted me down via facebook cause she found me to be "cute".

 

Today actually during my interview at best buy the supervisor for the department im working in now was talking to me about the job and stuff and i think she was flirting with me a bit. Blonde with blue eyes and cute face and a nice personality, she was sitting with her legs spread apart and twirling her hair with her neck sometimes facing out, like tilting her head and she was holding eye contact for long periods of time. Im such a sucker for blue eyes. Then we started talking about random things, i dont know it was weird the convo flowed so well...anyways yea i felt bad cause im talking to this other girl too so i dont know how to feel