CB4RH Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 Ok, heres the deal. My girlfriend and i have been together now almost two years. Recently she has let the fitness side of things go so now she is self conscious and has stopped all forms of sexual activity between the us. We have spoken about it and im trying to be supportive, but when you have a sex drive of a 17 year old male it gets kinda tricky. She has been depressed lately with her weight, school results and other things, but our two year anniversary is coming up and i know it means the world and more to her, what can i do to make it unforgettable? 1. Apart from encouraging her to go to the gym, what can i do to make a 17 yea old TEENAGE woman feel good about herself? 2. Tips for an anniversary? gift ideas? ( i finally have my license so travel is ok! ) 3. Tips for keeping my sanity while she sorts her issues out? ( anythin but cheating will help lol!!) Link to comment
duppy_conqueror Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 just remind her you think she is gorgeous no matter what in your eyes, so she feels that emotional support. and as for keeping your sanity, just remember taht if the tables were to turn you'd want her unconditional support as well. Link to comment
lost1607307474 Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 Tell her you are more attracted to her now than you ever were before. She needs to learn that you will thinks she gorgeous no matter what, and that weight gain has nothing to do with anything! You don't even have to encourage her to go the gym, just make her know that she is beautiful without fitness and gym. Etc. Link to comment
CB4RH Posted August 25, 2008 Author Share Posted August 25, 2008 i do tell her these things all the time because she really is beautiful to me no matter what and this does help, but she wants to be beautiful to everyone, not just myself. She wants to be confident to walk down the beach in summer and know she is being envied by other girls, and not by me lol. I only encourage her to go to the gym so she can slim down and feel comfortable with herself, i really dont mind. Is there anythin else i can do? Link to comment
AJ Auteur Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 what can i do to make it unforgettable? Break up with her. It'll take the pressure off of her from you and give her the motovation to change. She has made her choices...you must make yours. Link to comment
duppy_conqueror Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 i do tell her these things all the time because she really is beautiful to me no matter what and this does help, but she wants to be beautiful to everyone, not just myself. She wants to be confident to walk down the beach in summer and know she is being envied by other girls, and not by me lol. I only encourage her to go to the gym so she can slim down and feel comfortable with herself, i really dont mind. Is there anythin else i can do? not really. there is only so much you can do. just keep being supportive, but understand htat she needs to look into herself to make the right choices for herself. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted August 25, 2008 Share Posted August 25, 2008 I think most of the time, self esteem is an inside job. Why did she let things go? Generally people have to see things themselves, believe it themselves in order for them to believe people's words. She doesn't see it or feeling..and no matter how much you say, its going to fall on deaf ears because she doens't see it or feel it. She has to want to make things different again, gain her self esteem back..whether by fitness again or through some other means or just accepting her body as is. Link to comment
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