Really akward...

[luckyyy]

I'm gonna make this short as possible.

 

I had a party at my mums place for my 21st and had a load of my good friends round. The alcohol got flowing and to cut it short one of my friends hit two of my (our) friends badly injuring one of them. Now the one that is injured will never be friends with the one that attacked him ever again.

 

During hitting the 2nd friend there was basically a brawl. I was very drunk and angry that this "friend" attacked a second of our friends in my MUMS house. I was so mad that I hit him a few times in the head when he was being pulled back. Obviously this was cheap of me but I was very drunk and angry at the time.

 

Soooo, after a couple of say I sent an apology via text to my friend for hitting him. I am a very stubborn person so I am very pleased with myself for leaving my ego out of this and not accepting I have done wrong (even though my "friend" had done what he had done).

 

Now I am waiting for a reply. I have told him he made a stupid mistake and did not ask for an apology (I just expect one).

 

Have I handled everything as best as I could have done?

 

BTW, the reasons for him hitting my first friend was unprovoked before anyone asks.

[Loki71]

First not very good friends if they act like that in your moms house. Second I have been very drunk with friends and never hit any of them. We may have gotten mad at each other but by the next day it was over and we went on. So not really sure what will happen but IMO yes you over reacted and so did your friends. Maybe you need to talk while sober and see just how much your friendship means to all of you.

[luckyyy]

Well the "friend" who hit two of my friends is just an idiot. His friendship is lacking between us all lately and he is just too aggressive when drunk.

 

I know two wrongs and all that but in the heat of the action whilst I was drunk it seemed a good idea to hit this kid back for being such a complete tool. I am probably one of the least aggressive people you will ever meet but it goes to show what a lot of alcohol and drama can do I guess.

 

I wish that all this drama did not happen.

[Loki71]

Well the "friend" who hit two of my friends is just an idiot. His friendship is lacking between us all lately and he is just too aggressive when drunk.

 

 

Then you really should talk to him and maybe it's time to end it or at least never drink with him.

[luckyyy]

Then you really should talk to him and maybe it's time to end it or at least never drink with him.

 

It gets more complicated. I am going on holiday with a few friends in a few days and he is one of them. We have been looking forward to this holiday for a while now and now I have heard from a friend that he is not even going to meet me whilst we are on holiday (he is taking a separate flight)

[Loki71]

Since your 20 I wouldn't worry to much about it. Not sure how long you were friends with him but maybe it's time to just go your separat ways. after your vacation I wouldn't try and contact him if he still wants to be friends he will contact you. Plus he may feel real bad right now and is afraid or doesn't know what to say about his actions.

[luckyyy]

I've known him since I was very young and been good friends with him for a long time. I have noticed that I have probably matured at a much faster rate than he has and feel less attached to him as a friend. Unfortunately most of my friends are all friends with each other so when something like this happens it kinda breaks the circle a little...you are almost forced to be friends with everyone otherwise you will be left out.

 

There is a chance though that this one person is going to have to find some new friends as one of them out of our group will never talk to him again...I guess he has no choice but to apologise for his actions otherwise he will most definitely be left out.

[Loki71]

sometimes friends grow apart. This may be the case for him or you