mr_zanon Posted August 24, 2008 Share Posted August 24, 2008 My previous thread: We met there, they took their stuff. I just noticed she didn't give me my stuff, but that's not the point. Before she left, I asked if we could talk a little. All the time, I kept myself calm, not needy, just as I should. As I sat down and started saying "during this time...", she immediately had to hold her tears. She almost cried. I asked her some times what was happening, but she didn't answer. Then I told her that I had thought about everything she had told me before, worked out the points where I felt I needed, and told her that everything I have now (the apartment) and everything I am now is all because of her and the time we spent together, and I thanked her for this. She said that everything we went by was good, even with the problems we had. I hugged her (well, I tried, because she was holding his cousin's daughter in her arms). I kissed her forehead. I asked again why she almost cried, and she said "I don't know". She kissed me in the neck. I said, "not in the neck". She said "sorry". In the way to the door, I stopped and spent several seconds thinking. Decided to tell her that we couldn't be friends, because what I expected from us was different from what she expected. She said she wouldn't act if she didn't knew me and she wouldn't avoid me (as her ex does now). Before opening the door, I asked when she fell in love with the new guy. She answered "everyday", clearly because she didn't understand the question. I asked if it was before or after the break up, she said "after, surely". I have no reason to think it's not true. Before she left, I asked why she didn't want to give me another chance. She said "because I never try again with anyone". As she was leaving, I asked "are you sure?", and she just said "yes". My conclusion: she is not over me, but she won't give us another chance. That's the way she is. She seems to like the new guy more each day. She said she would keep in contact, but I really doubt she will ever try to talk to me again. I still love her, still want her back, but haven't dropped a single tear since this conversation (yet, I presume). I think she won't be back, no matter how much she still loves me and no matter how much she still misses me. I would like to talk to her (phone, email, text message, whatever) to emphasize the "we can't be friends" part, but I'm sure you will tell me to just forget about it. Any thoughts, insights? Link to comment
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