I'm not attracted to his hair

[queenofhisheart]

This is horrible to say but I don't find my boyfriend attractive right after he shaves his head. We have been together for 15 months and he is in the military so I know he has hair restrictions but having his head shaved isn't necessary. He was growing his hair out a little bit recently because he knows I like it a little longer but then yesterday he shaved his head again. He told me he shaved it because he was told he wasn't in regulation but I also found out that he told somebody else he was tired of his hair being longer because he was getting bed head. I love him but I just don't find him attractive with his head totally shaved. I of course can't tell him this but I don't know what to do.

[notsoanonymous]

Okay. A little tough love here.

 

Get over it. Someday, he might GASP! BE NATURALLY BALD!

 

Would you love him less then or find him less attractive? Perhaps.

 

I guess what I wonder is how you might feel if for example, you really hated having short hair but he constantly wanted you to cut it shorter or dye it a new color etc -

 

Wouldn't you feel a little like he doesn't love you exactly how you are or want to be?

[bijoux27]

Umm. So does his hair turn you on? Or does him shaving his head reveal the "ugly" shape of his head that you don't like?? It's still the same guy - just with a little less hair. I'm sure we all have our preferences (for e.g. I like guys with very short hair or long hair in a small ponytail - anything in the medium doesn't attract me much) but you have to look at the bigger picture.

 

Just tell him you like it when he grows his hair a little longer, that you're not a fan of the short hair on him. You have to communicate with him.

[iwasoncethewine]

I had this problem with my first bf. He didn't shave his head but he liked his hair to be about chin length long and I thought it looked horrible. When I realized I was not attracted to him anymore because of it, I should have realized I didn't really love him anymore. I have since gotten to the point where it doesn't matter to me what someone looks like, if I love them they are the hottest guy in the world to me no matter what.

 

I have had problems with being faithful because of not finding my partner attractive in the past but once you find someone who looks good to you even if they wouldn't look good if you just saw them walking down the street you can be more confident in your relationship. Maybe reevaluate your feelings about each other. If you think you really love him, focus on why you love him or the things about him that are always attractive- his eyes, his lips, anything and maybe you will not feel this way anymore.

[Haven]

You might want to reconsider whether you're attracted to him or to his hair. I can understand not being as attracted to someone, but if the attraction is completely lost just because his hair is shaved, then that's kind of a problem.

 

I guess you could always buy him a baseball cap, or something.

[Daegas]

He'll get old & then he might be ugly too....

[ladyblue07]

once you find someone who looks good to you even if they wouldn't look good if you just saw them walking down the street you can be more confident in your relationship. Maybe reevaluate your feelings about each other. If you think you really love him, focus on why you love him or the things about him that are always attractive- his eyes, his lips, anything and maybe you will not feel this way anymore.

 

Yeah, I think this is good advice. I think I understand where you're coming from because my boyfriend likes to have his hair short and I feel he looks a lot better with longer hair. But when you really love someone, you can overlook little things like that.

Also, when it comes right down to it, it is his hair, so he should get the final say in how it looks. Same goes for you deciding how to handle your own appearance!