freddykr Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Hi friends, I've been in enotalone for a while but have to change my username for anonymity on this subject and my future threads. As always you, enotalone users were right and i was wrong about me meeting my wife and settling with her. I met with my wife 4 years ago after a painful divorce from my ex as a result of her infidelity. Met my wife a year later and fell in love with her inner and outer beauty and her innocence. We started living together in a month and we got married 2 years ago. The thing is due to her painful and lonely past, my wife had lots of insecurities. She lost her parents when she was a child and her relatives gave her several years of painful life where she was forced to leave their house when she was 18, similar like "Jane Eyre". She had a few friends when i met her and she stop seeing them one by one and made me, the center of her life. In these couple of years, she due to her insecurities pushed all my friends away from our life as she didnt trust anyone and she kept on telling me that i would leave her someday due to her trust issues and her insecurities. She even has huge problems with my family and cant stand being with them which crazes me at times. Now after 4 years, I lost my attraction to her, i just love her and she is my best friend but i am not in love with her anymore. She doesnt have anyone not anyone at all in her life and if i leave her, she will be devastated and take a huge blow like her teenager years and I dont have the heart to hurt her in anyway. I dont know if i can fall in love with her but we have almost nothing in common, our conversations are around her problems with ppl in her life (her work friends and how bad, other ppl act to her) and/or stories on newspapers. We had a language barrier when we met, which she worked on and know she can converse all right but as she comes from a very hard childhood, her knowledge is limited on most things so hardly anything to talk about. So i am stuck with a pain which i cannot get over by myself. I cant even talk to my family about these as they will take sides right away. Fellow enotalone members helped me a lot in the past and i hope that i gave some nice advices to some ppl here also. Now i so need your help as i dont have anyone to turn to and talk about these, cause i know the answer i will get from them, just a plain 'leave her'. But i cant leave a person whose life is only me, she spends all her time and money to please me or buy me things. I am so confused and dont know what to do. Please help :sad: Link to comment
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