saintboon Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 I don't know what's going on with my ex. I'll try to keep it brief... We broke up because she "wasn't ready for a relationship." I'm sure there were other mitigating factors, but this is what I got. I tried to get her back, but ultimately walked away. After a month of contact I moved East for summer and cut off contact. Couple weeks later I started getting IMs from her, always with some sort of excuse to talk to me. She called a few times randomly, as the summer wore on, usually after this other girl I know posted photos of us going out (maybe jealous?) I contacted her sometimes too, but I'd said it was about 80-85% her initiating contact, about once a week all summer. Always cold and reserved, never shows her emotions. Talking to her is hard. Here's my * * * thing... Haven't talked to her quite as much lately, as she went back to school and has been very busy. I just got back to school now. Last night she shows up to my fraternity house with one of her friends. Hardly talks to anyone and kind of just standing around in the house, not even drinking. She starts conversations with some of my close friends, and eventually I went over to talk to her. Her friend was sick, and had to leave, but she stayed to talk with me for a bit. Indicator of interest? I thought so, but the whole time we talked it seemed like she was a little tense, on edge (admittedly she probably was pretty exhausted from sorority stuff). We stepped away from the crowd and she was receptive, she didn't cringe, or back away went I touched her. But she did seem to avoid eye contact. Her eyes were kind of darting around, almost like she was looking for someone, and she kind of started leaning away a little. I'm reading a lot into the body language here. Some of her friends came by after like a half hour and she left with them, giving me a quick hug and a pretty cold good-bye. I suggested we get lunch or coffee to catch up soon and she said yes, but not till after rush is over... I'm confused. She showed up to my house, which is way the hell out of the way. She obviously knew I'd be there, because I had hung out with the girl she was with the previous night. Her friend Kristy also left the minute I started talking to my ex, as she was sick, which makes me think that my ex asked her to come along just until she found me. Kristy is kind of a mutual friend (my ex does not really know anyone at my house). Yet then I read her body language as, if nothing else, tense and conflicted. She wouldn't have talked to me if she didn't want to... so what should I do now? I think I may shoot her a text later today saying, "It was good to see you last night." But should I? This is a forum for getting back together, so please, any advice will help. And try to be a little optimistic, thank you. Link to comment
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