I think the boyfriend of the girl I am interested may be cheating on her

[laesn]

So there is this girl i like (we are both in highschool she is a junior and I am a senior) I was going to ask her out this spring but I discovered she had a boyfriend. Now, this summer she has been out of the country for a month, she gets home tomorow. Last week I saw her boyfriend coming out of a restaurant with another girl, now i am not sure if they broke up or if he was cheating on her while she was overseas or even if he was just at dinner with a female friend (which i find unlikely given our age). I'm not sure if I should mention it to her or if i should just mind my own business. Background on my relationship with her: we have known eachother for many years but never really interacted much because we have different groups of friends and different activities. Our younger brother as well as our parents are friends so that was the connection. Anyway she interested me at the end of last winter when our famlies went on a weekend trip and since then we have talked a little when we run into eachother and have talked some through text and instant message. thanks for reading my rather long post

[Clarity]

It really sounds like it's none of your business - I wouldn't say a thing since you know nothing with certainty.

[Cognitive_Canine]

No, It is none of your business.

[AnonymousMG]

Step back from this situation, even if he is cheating on her, and you do tell her, that won't show you as a 'hero' of any sort in her eyes and it won't increase your chances to be with her. Let things play out as they are and if she is single at some point in the future then maybe try dating but it is never a good idea to get involved with something like this.

-AMG

[c h a n i e]

If I was being cheated on I would want to know. Find out if she is still with him before you drop this bombshell on her, and if you tell her don't say " Your boyfriend is cheating on you" just say something like "oh, i saw him the other day with a girl at this restraunt. Didn't know if it was just a friend or if you two had broken up"

 

Do not make it sound any worse than it is either. If she wants to break up with him she will and you should never play a part in that. You would then ruin your chances of being with her in the future.

[Clarity]

If I was being cheated on I would want to know. Find out if she is still with him before you drop this bombshell on her, and if you tell her don't say " Your boyfriend is cheating on you" just say something like "oh, i saw him the other day with a girl at this restraunt. Didn't know if it was just a friend or if you two had broken up"

 

Do not make it sound any worse than it is either. If she wants to break up with him she will and you should never play a part in that. You would then ruin your chances of being with her in the future.

 

And if the boyfriend was just out with a female friend? Then what?! The OP is left looking like a jealous stalker or something.

 

I'm sorry, but I think this is very poor advice.

[c h a n i e]

And if the boyfriend was just out with a female friend? Then what?! The OP is left looking like a jealous stalker or something.

 

I'm sorry, but I think this is very poor advice.

 

If you were being cheated on would you want to be the last to know?

 

Just because no one wants to get 'involved' can make it horrible for the person being cheated on.

 

If he isn't cheating, it could cause an argument between them yes. You just have to be very careful how you bring it up.

 

When I was being cheated on I resented people that knew I was being cheated on and didn't tell me.

 

Maybe it's just a sore subject because I have been in this position.

 

But still if I saw that I would probably say something.

[Clarity]

If you were being cheated on would you want to be the last to know?

 

Just because no one wants to get 'involved' can make it horrible for the person being cheated on.

 

If he isn't cheating, it could cause an argument between them yes. You just have to be very careful how you bring it up.

 

When I was being cheated on I resented people that knew I was being cheated on and didn't tell me.

 

Maybe it's just a sore subject because I have been in this position.

 

But still if I saw that I would probably say something.

 

It's one thing to know for sure, it's a completely different situation if you just saw someone meeting with a person of the opposite sex. I don't think the latter type of speculation has ever led to any good.

 

It seems like the OP's interest in this girl is clouding his judgment.

[Cognitive_Canine]

It's one thing to know for sure, it's a completely different situation if you just saw someone meeting with a person of the opposite sex. I don't think the latter type of speculation has ever led to any good.

 

It seems like the OP's interest in this girl is clouding his judgment.

 

agreed. If the girl is being cheated on, she probably has some notice to it.

 

If she isn't, the OP ends up looking like a complete creeper.

 

OP, telling her that her bf is cheating on her, even if he is, will NOT put you higher up in her book.

[c h a n i e]

It's one thing to know for sure, it's a completely different situation if you just saw someone meeting with a person of the opposite sex. I don't think the latter type of speculation has ever led to any good.

 

It seems like the OP's interest in this girl is clouding his judgment.

 

Possibly, it is hard, he is probably looking for faults with this guy too, after all he does like her.

 

Difficult.

[jcrisph]

Dont say anything. You dont have clear evidence of whats going on.

[May_It_Be]

Butt out of this. None of your business. If you want a chance with this girl, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE don't ruin it by making accusations against her boyfriend.

[ghost69]

It really sounds like it's none of your business - I wouldn't say a thing since you know nothing with certainty.

 

bingo. it's their relationship.