KG Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 For the 3rd time in 3 weeks, I respond to someone posting in Dating, women seeking men...all 3 turned out to be "lures" for not so free dating sites. Enough already!!!!!! Anyone else have good/bad news to share about CL? Link to comment
rocio Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Ha, sounds like my husband's job search. People keep calling him claiming to be legitimate jobs in his field. He shows up to the interview and it's door-to-door sales. Now we play 20 questions before we'll even consider an interview! Keep truckin', KG, there are real women out there! Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 my experience has been that men who are genuinely looking for dating and relationships will put up the money for a pay site. i've had good luck with eharmony. not so great results with match, but NO DATES at all from free sites. i think if a guy is interested in dating, sincerely, he'll pay the monthly fee. i think the same goes for women. those are my 2 cents.... Link to comment
KG Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 my experience has been that men who are genuinely looking for dating and relationships will put up the money for a pay site. i've had good luck with eharmony. not so great results with match, but NO DATES at all from free sites. i think if a guy is interested in dating, sincerely, he'll pay the monthly fee. i think the same goes for women. those are my 2 cents.... Isn't that prostitution? LOL! Link to comment
jnr30024 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 my experience has been that men who are genuinely looking for dating and relationships will put up the money for a pay site. i've had good luck with eharmony. not so great results with match, but NO DATES at all from free sites. i think if a guy is interested in dating, sincerely, he'll pay the monthly fee. i think the same goes for women. those are my 2 cents.... how did eharmony dates go. and yea i have had bad luck with match and lavalife. Link to comment
jnr30024 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 For the 3rd time in 3 weeks, I respond to someone posting in Dating, women seeking men...all 3 turned out to be "lures" for not so free dating sites. Enough already!!!!!! Anyone else have good/bad news to share about CL? craigslist is no good for anything, really. I have had same thing happen. Link to comment
TallOne Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 For the most part the ads on CL are just that, bait or lures for pay for sites, others are just pranksters getting their kicks and laughs at the expense of the lovelorn. There ARE however, a few people who do use the site for dating. In my experience less than 1% are for real. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 I've put up an ad before on Craigslist, got some of the weirdest responses. Went on a few dates. Seems like most guys there are only looking for sex. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Gonna dump CL....B!S! Good for you! Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 how did eharmony dates go. and yea i have had bad luck with match and lavalife. i've had the best luck with eharmony. not so much with match. i got a ton of responses on match, but nothing really quality. there was a lot of overlap between the eharmony and match guys. Link to comment
jengh Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 I had no luck with link removed I do kind of like Yahoo personals Had some luck with link removed haven't tried eHarmony and hopefully won't have to! Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 my experience has been that men who are genuinely looking for dating and relationships will put up the money for a pay site. i've had good luck with eharmony. not so great results with match, but NO DATES at all from free sites. i think if a guy is interested in dating, sincerely, he'll pay the monthly fee. i think the same goes for women. those are my 2 cents.... Great post, I totally agree. I was one of those rejected by eHarmony as having "no matches." After a day of feeling totally depressed and like a loser I said, shove it up your bum, I'll find my own matches, thank you. Signed up for link removed and found it not as good of a crowd, quality wise. Then I got onto link removed, and I think their psych tests and many features are a cut above Match. KG, I would advise you to try True, since I had "good luck" on there...but what does "good luck" mean anyway? I got a boyfriend from True. But look how that turned out. So I dunno. But I do think CL is an absolute waste of time for dating, period. Pay sites are better, I think. Annie's right. People have to spend more effort and care on them. And on a site like True, they have a lot of fun tests (for compatibility) that require a little time committment, so it's not so slap dash. (And no, I'm not being paid by True to say this! Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 i got a ton of responses on match, but nothing really quality. Yup, that's what I mean. Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 sorry that you weren't 'accepted' by eharmony. it happens. if there aren't many 'compatible people' for you in your area, they won't accept you. i think that's fair. there's no point in charging you if you're only going to get 1 match. another thing to think about..... i've heard that some people get disqualified for being 'conforming.' ie, if there is a question like, 'do you ever go above the speed limit?' and you say 'no', they think that you might be the type to lie, to say things that the eharmony wants to head, so they disqualify you for being too 'socially conforming.' EVERYONE speeds at times. this is what a friend of mine who works with some of these personality tests told me, but she doesn't work for eharmony, so i can't say with certainty..... Link to comment
KG Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 ERRR! At a loss for pay sites...tried Match and Eharmony months ago...they must've seen the hump on my back..J/K...NO responses at all! Very disconcerting! Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 did you write to ladies you found interesting? Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 another thing to think about..... i've heard that some people get disqualified for being 'conforming.' ie, if there is a question like, 'do you ever go above the speed limit?' and you say 'no', they think that you might be the type to lie, to say things that the eharmony wants to head, so they disqualify you for being too 'socially conforming.' EVERYONE speeds at times. this is what a friend of mine who works with some of these personality tests told me, but she doesn't work for eharmony, so i can't say with certainty..... I actually worried about the opposite problem: I answered SO honestly, that for instance with questions like "Do you sometimes feel blue?" or something about my mood, I was honest in that I'm not always as upbeat as I'd like or something. I thought maybe they thought I was some basket case depressive or something, so they thought I wouldn't be a good match for anyone! I always get into trouble being too "nonconforming". Speak your mind AND (not OR) forever hold your peace. Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 hm, maybe you can take the test again when you are in a better mood! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 KG i have heard that the people on Craigslist personals are almost always scam artists or people you probably won't want to deal with. The few decent gems who post are going to be scarce and tough to find. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 sorry that you weren't 'accepted' by eharmony. it happens. if there aren't many 'compatible people' for you in your area, they won't accept you. i think that's fair. there's no point in charging you if you're only going to get 1 match. another thing to think about..... i've heard that some people get disqualified for being 'conforming.' ie, if there is a question like, 'do you ever go above the speed limit?' and you say 'no', they think that you might be the type to lie, to say things that the eharmony wants to head, so they disqualify you for being too 'socially conforming.' EVERYONE speeds at times. this is what a friend of mine who works with some of these personality tests told me, but she doesn't work for eharmony, so i can't say with certainty..... Just another way job searching online and searching for a date are similar. The personality/profile testing we used at my last company used the same concept and principles as the Eharmony tests and they are pretty subjective in many ways. Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 ah, like the question, 'have you ever stolen anything from work?' if someone says no, they must be lying. everyone's stolen at least a pen or pad of paper, even if by accident. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 ah, like the question, 'have you ever stolen anything from work?' if someone says no, they must be lying. everyone's stolen at least a pen or pad of paper, even if by accident. I was trained in "assumptive interviewing" years ago and that was exactly one of the types of questions asked. If someone was honest and said they stole some erasers or something when they were 16 they were deemed more honest than someone who said "no" they never stole anything at all. We also never asked IF they stole, we asked "what is the largest amount of money or items you have ever taken that didn't belong to you". It is assuming the worst. I didn't really like that type of interviewing but it was a necessary part of my training and I did them off and on for about a year as just one small part of my regular HR job. I much prefer behaviorial type interviewing to assumptive interviewing. Link to comment
just M.E. Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Some sites let you search without creating a profile or paying. You will have to pay to message someone. Check this site out also. link removed Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 you should ask ConfusedDater KG. he stands by CL like no other. Link to comment
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