phish Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I love my friend -and not necessarily in a romantic way. I'm actively interested in her wellbeing as well as her succeeding in life. She is manic-depressive and has border-line personality problems. And I'm burned out with her. She was horribly lonely last year because all her friends ditched her. I expected, as I think she did too, that when we got the house, and roommates, she would have a better social circle. But we've been here a month, and she has had plenty of opportunities to get out there, but all she does is feel bad and sit at her computer for hours. She doesn't even play with the dogs anymore. She's not making any meaningful effort, and there is nothing I can do. I expected her to really start taking care of herself, something that she is capable of doing, but she hasn't, and I have my own life to live, and to sit here and waste time while she willingly rots away is not what I want. I simply cannot be the only person in the world that sees her everyday and wants her to make it through life. Thats too much of a burden on me -something I don't deserve. She knows it too. So I told her this, and now she thinks that since I had feelings for her in the past, the only reason I've stuck around her for so long is because I wanted to get with her. Yeah, I did, but thats not why I pulled away from other friends, and spent too much time and money with/on her. I did it because she has more potential than anybody I know, and it would be horribly sad for her not live up to it. I wanted her to do well because I know she deserves it. But she can't see how I'd be burned out for any other reason than not being able to have a relationship with her. After all, thats what every other guy wants. Nobody can just be her friend. Girls can't stand her, and guys just want her body. We are both on the lease, but I can get out of it once I become active military, and it seems to me that if she continues to characterize my love and devotion toward as only an attempt to have sex with her, then I'm not going to put my future financial situation at risk for her. She can handle the house on her own, and the only benefit of me being on the lease is that if she messes this house up, she would only owe the bank 50%. We've only been in the house a month, and its a year long lease. Do you guys think I'm in the right if get out it? It was both our idea to get the house and the lease... Link to comment
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