kimber271 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Hi Everyone, I'm a little stuck on something that's been making me feel an uncontrollable feeling of mistrust and hurt. My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years. We met in LA where I still live, but due to the high stress of my boyfriends life there, he was pretty much forced to move back home down in the Southern states. Its been very tough, but he pays for me to come visit every six weeks. We've had our major issues in the past, but have managed to stick together through them. But, I recently found out he took another woman out for drinks. I remember the night clearly, because he had his phone off for over 5 hours, and when i was finally able to reach him, he said he just didn't charge his phone, he had a few beers alone, and was really sorry. It was hard, but I believed him. Well, the last time I went to visit him, I saw a few texts in his phone (he let me use it) from a woman, saying "ill see you tonight", etc.. They were dated that night his phone was off. I confronted him, and he finally admitted it, and swore though they only had drinks. I was heartbroken. We had a lot of issues before, but we were in a good place when he took this woman out behind my back. I asked him why, what did i do? He said I did nothing wrong, and he was so sorry. We had a long talk, and he said he made a mistake, he loves me, and swore to me he'd never do that again. I want to believe him, but in the beginning of the relationship he did cheat, and then again this time. He saw how distraught i was, and swore to me he will never do it again.. He's been acting very sorry. Then, when i was using his computer I found saved pictures of a sex tape of a famous female celebrity. The pictures were disgusting and graphic, and just of her. I confronted him, and he said to not worry. He doesn't watch porn, they're just pictures, and I should laugh about it. It hurt me to see that, especially since our sex life is really hurting. He has a low desire.. Then i see those photos.. He said, "Im a guy, its no big deal." He wont take them off his computer, because he says "he's a guy" and im his girlfriend, his lover, and best friend, and those pictures mean nothing. It hurt me though! Am i overreacting to all of this?? Should I forgive him for taking that woman out, and not be hurt by those photos on his computer? Link to comment
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