Keeping promises to self...

[Applewhite]

How do you make sure you keep promises you've made to yourself? To achieve goals, to stop bad habits, to do or not do some things, to get a job DONE...

 

How frequently do you break them? Do you get angry at yourself? Do you reward ourself when you keep the promises? How do you get over the self anger and convert it into something positive ?

[Batya33]

I chop up the goals into baby steps. I do use positive reinforcement if I have to, I do get frustrated if I procrastinate/break the "promise" but I also have to be careful not to be too hard on myself because that can backfire too. I make to do lists so that it's satisfying to check things off, etc.

[CallingAllAngels]

Well, instead of saying "I have to", I say "I CHOOSE to"

 

For example...

 

If you are trying to lose weight, don't say "I CAN'T have that brownie", say, "I CHOOSE not to have that brownie because I know I will be thinner for it."

 

If you are trying to exercise more, don't say "I HAVE to go to the gym", say, "I CHOOSE to go to the gym because I know it's good for me and I will feel so much better when I am done."

 

These are little "mind games" I play with myself. It really is all in the thinking.

 

Hope this was helpful!

 

My best,

 

~Allie