Photo Date

[DtD]

I'm taking out this girl on our second date. We've known each other since high school (I had a crush on her) and have kept in touch ever since but have done nothing.

 

My plan is to go out to a coffee shop by the lake front, Lake Michigan to be exact, so the view is great. We'd either sit in and enjoy conversation over our drinks, or grab our drinks and walk the lake front.

 

This is where I bring my camera in, I haven't told her photography is a hobby of mine, so it will be a conversation starter. Eventually I will guide her into asking what I like to take photo's of. When this comes up, I'll say "say cheese" (not really) and take her photo, and say "You" or "things I really like" or something along that line.

 

Anyone think this would get my message accross? I know coffee dates are more of a first date thing, but I love the tea they brew and they have some good food. Not to mention we had a pretty nifty dinner date as our first date.

[333]

um i think that if you say "you" it may be a little stalkerish and creepy.

 

however i think it can be pulled off in a cute way, if youre a fan of corny though (woo corny ftw) but anyway, if she asks you what you like to take photos of, ask her if she would take a photo with you, and say that you take photos of things you like, and you like the two of you together. if you do this it wont come as creepy and just snatching a photo of her. itll probably catch her offguard. plus itll give her some time to rearrange herself and prepare for the pic since thats what we girls like to do. we're not a fan of candid shots

[soul_soother]

I dunno the idea of bringing a camera on a date without them knowing is kind of creepy. I hate when people take pictures of me without telling me. So since your don't know what or how she is, I think you should bring it up, with your camera, safely in your car. And if she thinks it's cool you can say something like "My camera is in the car wanna get some pictures". I agree the whole pulling a camera out is just very stalkerish without letting them.

[AnonymousMG]

I think this is very borderline between either coming off as a really "sweet" thing or creepy and stalkerish. I wouldn't try to hide the camera or pull it out and surprise her with it. Maybe if you go somewhere with nice scenery, start by taking pictures of other things then use the line about taking pictures of things you really like and ask if you could take one of her, etc.

Good luck,

-AMG

[Rising]

To be honest man... I'd leave the camera at home. Some girls don't want to be photographed at all, much less on the first few dates. She might get weirded out. You should get a little more comfortable and establish some history before you start 'recording'.

 

Just my thoughts.

 

-Rising

[Batya33]

I am self conscious in front of the camera and I would find it creepy if someone I barely knew tried to photograph me because, even if it's totally G rated I really don't need people I don't know well having photos of me. Photography is a great hobby and doesn't require bringing along the camera to talk about it.

[ghost69]

creepy, big time.

 

i think just conversate about your hobby then maybe suggest you can take her photo some time. much more sane.

[confused25]

I wouldn't do that if I were you . . . on the second date I would think that as being kind of creepy. I don't like having pictures taken by people I'm not familiar with, you never know what they would do with your pictures!

[amipushy]

Say Wow look at the view, I'm going to have to come here again with my camera... btw, did you know that my hobby is photographer?"- Thats how to use it as a conversation starter. Hopefuly she will want to join you next time.

[embilee]

How do you suppose you'll guide her into asking that? How old are you guys? Is photography actually a hobby or are you pretending it is so you can take a picture of her? Is the point of the whole thing to tell her that you like her or because you would like a picture of her? I couldn't figure it out from what you said -- if this was a clever way of telling her you like her, or if you were trying to sneakily snag a picture of her.

[DtD]

Okay, well I'm kind of using this as a 1.5 date to see how interested she is in me and to ask if she'd like to come to my place on the weekend and enjoy a bonfire. Would it be better to just put the camera aside and only pull it out if she wants to, or just not bring it, and meet her for coffee and a stroll down the lake front? I just thought I could use the camera to sort of have fun with between the two of us.

[desert_rose26]

To be honest man... I'd leave the camera at home. Some girls don't want to be photographed at all, much less on the first few dates. She might get weirded out. You should get a little more comfortable and establish some history before you start 'recording'.

 

Just my thoughts.

 

-Rising

 

 

Agreed...wait for a bit longer...it'll feel more special if you wait.

[ghost69]

Okay, well I'm kind of using this as a 1.5 date to see how interested she is in me and to ask if she'd like to come to my place on the weekend and enjoy a bonfire. Would it be better to just put the camera aside and only pull it out if she wants to, or just not bring it, and meet her for coffee and a stroll down the lake front? I just thought I could use the camera to sort of have fun with between the two of us.

 

just seems weird to me. wait until you are a bit more serious.

[DtD]

just seems weird to me. wait until you are a bit more serious.

 

youre just talking about the camera thing right?

[ghost69]

youre just talking about the camera thing right?

 

yes. yes i am.

[DtD]

yes. yes i am.

 

okay yeah I already ruled that out and just making it coffee and a walk along the lake front.

 

thanks everyone