Mixed Messages?

[whitetigerak]

So...

 

Catch up for everyone who hasn't read my posts this last week.

 

*Catch Up: I am on vacation, coming to meet a girl for the first time I met through a mutual friend. The original attempt was to see if there was a chance for us to be more then friends... She basically said no way.. there's no connection there and now I just feel awkward around you and don't think we should even be friends anymore*

 

Now that your caught up...

 

I leave to go back home tomorrow, Things have got a little better. We're now at the point where she has told me she wants to continue our friendship and keep talking.

 

Anyway, I had pretty much just got myself use to the fact that there's no chance for a future with her and I cause there's just no spark there on her part.

 

Then I go on myspace... where she recently filled out a survey bulletin.. and below is one of the questions and answers

 

Q: what's stopping you from going for the person you like?

 

A: Because... I don't know if Mike (me, except I used a fake name while reposting this) actually likes me, or just the idea of me. And to be honest, I'm not really looking for a relationship right before school starts and all. I'm okay with things how they are... I can live through a crush I've done it before.

 

 

Now I am totally confused as to what to do....

 

She basically just admitted that she was lying when she said there was no spark for her (which I felt like she was when she said it)

 

So do I... push the topic with her again now?

 

Continue being her friend and try again in the future to show her that I really do like her and i'm willing to wait for her?

 

and if the second option I don't know how to approach her anymore.. now that she has finally admitted she has feelings in return.. to I let her know once I go home and we continue talking that I miss her and love her.. or do I just keep it platonic subjects as to not make her feel pressured?

 

ahhh stress, I hate it!

[Weeblie]

Q: what's stopping you from going for the person you like?

 

A: Because... I don't know if Mike (me, except I used a fake name while reposting this) actually likes me, or just the idea of me. And to be honest, I'm not really looking for a relationship right before school starts and all. I'm okay with things how they are... I can live through a crush I've done it before.

 

Are you sure that she means you? If so, just tell her you saw her survey and was wondering what was up with that one question. If she blows it off then say something like, well for what it's worth...I do like the idea of you, but I'm finding that I like the actual you 100x more. But I understand if you just want to stay friends.

 

I mean honestly, long distance relationships are difficult. Add the fact that you haven't really spent much time together in person and who knows if you'll ever get to be together...it's a lot of stress. I wouldn't pressure her for a relationship, but I think if you let her know that you do like her for who she is, she'd appreciate it.