FeelingNumb Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 My wife of 12+ years wants to leave our family. She claims she's been unhappy but doesn't know why. We've always had problems communicating, we never talk much about our feelings, but let them go. She's recently been contacted by her old high scool boyfriend, who she now feels, has provided her with that "connection" or happiness she's been missing in our relationship and she want to leave me. We've been together 20 years, married for 12 of them and have two beautiful smart young children. He lives hundreds of miles away near the ocean, which she's also, always wanted to be near. He is unmarried and has a child from a previous relationship which will keep him where he is. I've had to take on a new job that puts me out of the state four days a week. And I've had to do this for almost 4 years now. I know this is another stressful part of our relationship. I think her being alone with the family and responsibilities during this time have given her the strength and acknowledgement that she can go it alone if she had to. She says she needs her space and I really believe she wants to leave me. I want to give her her space but don't want to stop showing her I really care and don't want her to leave. I'm trying everything within my power to get employment closer to home, (which I should have done more before this happened). She talks to him a couple hours every day and I think I'm going to explode. Her space is being invaded by him and my chances of making this work seem to be diminishing every day. I think if he were out of the picture she wouldn't feel so compelled to leave but would try counseling or other means to fix us. I think he's taking her from me every time she talks to him. When I am home it tears my heart out to not discuss it and to act as if everything is normal.. I need help.. I feel like I'm dying.. I cant eat or sleep or think straight..When I talk to her on the phone I feel like I need to make thinngs up to say just to keep her off the phone with him.... Please God someone help me. Link to comment
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