Seymore Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been together for 11 months now. She's had a problem with her anger all this time and even before we met. She's trying hard to not snap at me when I ask a simple question and to try to control her temper. She has plenty of good days, but the bad days are more and more frequent. She was thinking of going on prozac, but decided to try natural supplements like St. John's Wort, etc., which she's been on for a week now. Her psychologist had told her to try Prozac on a couple of occasions before she stopped seeing him, because she couldn't afford the sessions anymore. This morning I was driving her to work and asked if her sister was going to pick her up to get her car that was in the shop. I was more than willing to drive her if her sister couldn't, but her response was to the tone of that I was an idiot (she never calls names, but that's how I felt) and should know her sister doesn't get off work until late. I told her it wasn't my job to remember her work schedule and her sister's work schedule which she only remembered once. But just her snotty attitude ruined my morning. Anyway, I could go on, but the situations are like the above, usually. She claims she's trying, etc., so I try to be understanding. And it keeps happening, so after I dropped her off at work, I collected myself and my thoughts, and wrote an e-mail to her telling her I refuse to be treated like this and if she wants to marry me (which she says often), she's going to have to knock it off because I don't want it to end up where our kids are listening to her get angry over everything and thinking that's ok. But she said that was a threat and refused to be threatened in a relationship (although 2 weeks ago she said she refuses to be in a relationship with anyone other than me - I was seeing my parents 3-4 times a week and she thought it was too much), and said she can't fix it and doesn't know what's wrong and clearly I've made my decision to leave her so she's going to come collect her stuff. I told her that first, that wasn't what I said and that I want to help her by maybe figuring out what I'm saying that's setting her off and if I should just reword things or what, and she said again, angry, that she didn't know what was wrong and no, I can't fix it, and if we're in love I should accept her faults. I told her that if she wants me out of her life to just say so and I won't say anything and just leave her alone. I hated having to say that. Am I wrong in any way here? Link to comment
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