ghost69 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 ^^^^^^^^^if it's within a few weeks and you are constantly telling him you like him, shows you are insecure and clingy. the frequency of calling as you said is good. couple times a week. Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I never understood that. What, exactly, would someone do to "keep things interesting"? The way I see it, it's either there or it's not. If you have been dating someone for some time and you stop doing things together the spark will get lost. You have to keep having dates or at least some type of activity that you both enjoy doing together. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 ^^^^^^^^^if it's within a few weeks and you are constantly telling him you like him, shows you are insecure and clingy. the frequency of calling as you said is good. couple times a week. WAIT A MINUTE! I thought guys liked it if you called??? Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 ^we can't really help the "no spark" thing, can we? the chemistry is either there or it's not, right???? Yeah but when the man tries and the woman is too lazy for the effort to bring the spark back is when i walk. its been done before for me. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 ^^^^^^^^^if it's within a few weeks and you are constantly telling him you like him, shows you are insecure and clingy. the frequency of calling as you said is good. couple times a week. ah, let me clarify... just meant like within the first 3-4 dates, expressing that you enjoy his company... not repeatedly saying it or going on about it - I wouldn't like that either. Link to comment
allypally Posted August 19, 2008 Author Share Posted August 19, 2008 What are we talking about here? in the woman's case parading around in a French maid's outfit?? No drama of any kind = no spark?! Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 .................... Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 WAIT A MINUTE! I thought guys liked it if you called??? Not all the time though. I don't want to get a phone call from somebody I just started dating for every little thing that happens during her day. The following is bad - phone conversations. 10am - my work had free pretzels this morning jealous noon - guess what I'm getting for lunch 5pm - I had such a bad day today 9pm - hey I havn't talk to you in a while. What's going on 11pm - goodnight Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 What are we talking about here? in the woman's case parading around in a French maid's outfit?? No drama of any kind = no spark?! That would keep my spark going. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Not all the time though. I don't want to get a phone call from somebody I just started dating for every little thing that happens during her day. The following is bad - phone conversations. 10am - my work had free pretzels this morning jealous noon - guess what I'm getting for lunch 5pm - I had such a bad day today 9pm - hey I havn't talk to you in a while. What's going on 11pm - goodnight No, I don't do that. But I just called the guy I'm dating on my break this morning and invited him over tonite for take out and he said yes. I'm assuming that is acceptable?????????????? *Please say yes, please say yes* (Allie waits for answer from guys on this one) Link to comment
anggrace Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Ugh... The whole trying not to be "too clingy" yet "making him feel wanted" is a dance that never seems to end. So often people get turned off if the person they're dating shows too much interest, but as soon as they back down and show little interest, they want you again. I was in a relationship that required alot of work, he didn't want me to leave, but it seemed the more I tried to make the relationship work, the more turned off he was. I then was labled as "clingy". At what point can a woman feel free to express herself without having to worry about these 'rules'? Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 No, I don't do that. But I just called the guy I'm dating on my break this morning and invited him over tonite for take out and he said yes. I'm assuming that is acceptable?????????????? *Please say yes, please say yes* (Allie waits for answer from guys on this one) Nothing wrong with that. I would like that. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I have somewhat of a feeling that 'spark' is defined differently by gender. Correct me if I'm wrong, but to spark a guy takes not that much effort.... meaning it's easier to spark the guy... I think women put too much thought into it, when just something simple and just a little risque would do the trick... am I on the right track here? Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Ugh... The whole trying not to be "too clingy" yet "making him feel wanted" is a dance that never seems to end. So often people get turned off if the person they're dating shows too much interest, but as soon as they back down and show little interest, they want you again. I was in a relationship that required alot of work, he didn't want me to leave, but it seemed the more I tried to make the relationship work, the more turned off he was. I then was labled as "clingy". At what point can a woman feel free to express herself without having to worry about these 'rules'? After dating for a while I guess. Once you spend the majority of your free time together just make sure you let him go out with the boys every once and a while and you won't be clingy. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Nothing wrong with that. I would like that. *PHEW*!!! Thanks for answering! Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I have somewhat of a feeling that 'spark' is defined differently by gender. Correct me if I'm wrong, but to spark a guy takes not that much effort.... meaning it's easier to spark the guy... I think women put too much thought into it, when just something simple and just a little risque would do the trick... am I on the right track here? Doesn't have to be sexual. I would like to have a nice breakfast once in a while where we get up a little early and sit and talk before work. That's just me though. Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 *PHEW*!!! Thanks for answering! See now I am having the complete opposite problem with this girl I'm dating. Everytime I call her to go out she agrees but she is yet to call me first. When we go out I know she is into me but a few days after the date I start thinking why can't she initiate a phone call and I start to wonder if she's into me. You know what though I think it actually makes me want her more because I am always uncertain if she is into me. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Ugh... The whole trying not to be "too clingy" yet "making him feel wanted" is a dance that never seems to end. So often people get turned off if the person they're dating shows too much interest, but as soon as they back down and show little interest, they want you again. I was in a relationship that required alot of work, he didn't want me to leave, but it seemed the more I tried to make the relationship work, the more turned off he was. I then was labled as "clingy". At what point can a woman feel free to express herself without having to worry about these 'rules'? I totally agree... and these rules change depending on the guy and his 'clingy-ness factor'. This alone can be exhausting. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Doesn't have to be sexual. I would like to have a nice breakfast once in a while where we get up a little early and sit and talk before work. That's just me though. I guess this would be the 'simple' that I was thinking of. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 See now I am having the complete opposite problem with this girl I'm dating. Everytime I call her to go out she agrees but she is yet to call me first. When we go out I know she is into me but a few days after the date I start thinking why can't she initiate a phone call and I start to wonder if she's into me. You know what though I think it actually makes me want her more because I am always uncertain if she is into me. Well, we have seen each other 8 out of the past 18 days, so I felt pretty comfortable calling him. And he chills with his friends every Sunday and Monday and I don't mind. So far things are sooooooo good! But I do call him occasionally if I want to invite him over! Link to comment
george237 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Well, we have seen each other 8 out of the past 18 days, so I felt pretty comfortable calling him. And he chills with his friends every Sunday and Monday and I don't mind. So far things are sooooooo good! But I do call him occasionally if I want to invite him over! Someone's in love, your counting days. Good for you. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Someone's in love, your counting days. Good for you. Ahhhhhhh....ya caught me! Link to comment
thejigsup Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I've got a great idea for the guys and the gals: Why not just be yourself? If you are compatable, that will be enough. If you are basically not on the same wavelength, it will come out sooner or later. Never, never, go against your natural personality! Can you imagine having to maintain an act for years? Yuck! Link to comment
joebloggs Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Ugh... The whole trying not to be "too clingy" yet "making him feel wanted" is a dance that never seems to end. So often people get turned off if the person they're dating shows too much interest, but as soon as they back down and show little interest, they want you again. I was in a relationship that required alot of work, he didn't want me to leave, but it seemed the more I tried to make the relationship work, the more turned off he was. I then was labled as "clingy". At what point can a woman feel free to express herself without having to worry about these 'rules'? It depends on the man and how confident he is. Problems can occur if his perception is that the relationship is progressing too quickly, but ask yourself the question, would you really want to be with a man that was that insecure anyway. Link to comment
Superfreak Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Cheating, being abusive (verbally or physically) are obvious one's. In general if I feel bad about myself when I'm around you or we're constantly arguing whenever we're together then you're probably not someone I want in my life. Maybe I'm weird but, as long as I'm attracted to the girl, clingyness doesn't turn me off at all. I find it flattering. Link to comment
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