Thanking you for taking him away, college.

[KISSKISS]

Well, here it goes. So I had another name on here before (HurleyBabe6917) and you might recognize me from it. So, possibly you know a little bit of background on my relationship.

 

I have been with my boyfriend, Chris, for almost five years now, since 8th grade and we just graduated this year. We pretty much hang out 5 days out of each week, have gone on numerous vacations together, etc. We only live about 2 minutes apart and this year he decides he wants to go to Central Michigan, two hours away. Now I know that's not that far but to me it is considering everything. I work full time, plus I'll be going to school in a month. Also, I am involved in atleast 80 hours of volunteer work that I have to do for school. What I'm trying to say is, now we're barely every going to be able to see eachother, he leaves Thursday, and I'M DEPRESSED!

 

I'm not sure how to make this work and I would like some advice. Please don't give me all the factual bullcrap that some people like to pull, that doesn't really help, I can read that anywhere. I want something from the heart, possibly experiences or such things like that. Good and bad things. Just please, don't feed me bull or tip toe around the bad things.

[Angel_baby]

Take everyday as it comes. Things have a way of working out most of the time.

If you two are serious about making it work, both of you will do what you can and work on it to keep what you have for each other.

 

Yes your time together will be cut drastically, it will be hard to get used to it at first but think of this as a "test" on your relationship. Or a challenge to tackle and achieve.

 

Can you take a vacation day here and there from work? Or just possibly use your vacation time during holiday breaks?

Between you and him, I think you two can work it out.

[romeo1546]

Hey, I've been in your same situation before, twice actually, and I can honestly say that long distance relationships are underrated. Lots of people either say they aren't worth it or that they are too much effort, but I think they can be a great change of pace for a couple that sees each other all the time.

 

I used to date a girl from my hometown (the ex that i miss so terribly) and the relationship definitely changed when I went away to school- two hours away, just like central michigan for you. You learn so much more about your SO that you never thought possible, considering you live on phone calls, texts, emails, etc.

 

Yes, it definitely sucks big time that you won't be able to see him, hug him, kiss him, be with him every day, but ironically you'll get to know him so much better and it will allow your love to grow even more.

 

Plus, it makes the times you do see him that much more exciting. The anticipation, the countdowns, everything, it's great. I'd say don't be nervous or scared.... yes you're going to miss him and it will be hard but you two will fall in love even more!

[KISSKISS]

Take everyday as it comes. Things have a way of working out most of the time.

If you two are serious about making it work, both of you will do what you can and work on it to keep what you have for each other.

 

Yes your time together will be cut drastically, it will be hard to get used to it at first but think of this as a "test" on your relationship. Or a challenge to tackle and achieve.

 

Can you take a vacation day here and there from work? Or just possibly use your vacation time during holiday breaks?

Between you and him, I think you two can work it out.

 

 

Thanks a lot.

He always says we can say good morning and good night on webcam,

I just hope it's enough.

I feel like we're.... getting divorced or something it's weird.

I'm going to try to take as much work as possible off.

Like try to go up there every other weekend or so.

Too bad I don't have vacation time. =\

[KISSKISS]

Plus, it makes the times you do see him that much more exciting. The anticipation, the countdowns, everything, it's great. I'd say don't be nervous or scared.... yes you're going to miss him and it will be hard but you two will fall in love even more!

 

 

I guess I never really thought of it that way.

I will enjoy counting the days down till I get to see him again.

And I guess every day that I don't get to see him is

Just one day closer to when I will get to see him.

[Angel_baby]

Thanks a lot.

He always says we can say good morning and good night on webcam,

I just hope it's enough.

I feel like we're.... getting divorced or something it's weird.

I'm going to try to take as much work as possible off.

Like try to go up there every other weekend or so.

Too bad I don't have vacation time. =\

 

Even without the vacation time I am sure things can be worked out somehow. Looking at it with a optimistic (I know it's hard) view will make it easier to see the opportunities in front of you.

 

A webcam is a great idea! Also he should give you one of his shirts, pillows or just something with his smell.

The feeling you are feeling is just the stress that comes from "change". You are being pushed out of your comfort zone and forced into change. It's a normal reaction.

Don't view it as a bad thing though.. this will help you get into touch more with your independent side and also strengthen your relationship with your boyfriend. Yes LDR can actually make you both stronger and show each of you how much you both really love each other.

 

Try to keep your remaining days with each other happy. Try not to bring it down with how depressed that you feel. You will want to remember these days while you are counting down the days for your next visit.

[livefree]

Thanks a lot.

He always says we can say good morning and good night on webcam,

I just hope it's enough.

 

webcam is an absolute godsend in long distance relationships. Nothing beats seeing the person you love, and what they look like and what they're doing at that exact moment. To me, it's the next best thing to actually being there.

 

It's going to be very hard and you might argue a little more than usual. So avoid the petty arguments. There's already soo much strain from being far apart, worrying about petty things will only strain it even more

 

Planning a definitive time when you're going to see each other helps a TON...It gives you something to look forward to, it's kinda like a light at the end of a tunnel (or middle of the tunnel, since you'll have to say goodbye again eventually, but you know what I mean )

 

When you get through it, it really is rewarding. I've never felt closer to my boyfriend than after being so far apart

[KISSKISS]

I have 2 shirts, a pair of boxers anda pair of pj pants. I wear them all the time

so they don't smell like him anymore. But I know he atleast wore them before. =]

It's hard to stay happy.

We were laying in bed earlier watching a movie.

I was watching him very unnoticed and it just hit me so hard that I was going to miss doing that every day.

I don't hang out with my friends anymore, he's pretty much been my only friend for the last few years. He's pretty much the only person I hang out with.

And now I'm going to have to actually find somethign to do with out him around.

No more dinners, movies, walking my dogs, watching TV, seeing each other at work.

All of this hit me earlier and I just leaned over onto him and started balling into his neck.

I don't wanna do this.. I already miss him and I still have 3 days...

God... even right now I've got tears rolling down my cheeks.

[KISSKISS]

I'm looking forward to the webcam deal.

I just hate not being able to smell, kiss, hug, feel him.

I am looking forward though to the days I'll get to spend with him.

They're the only thing keeping me slightly ok..

[Rose21]

Why is this post still here?

 

I mean you cheated on him TWICE.

[KISSKISS]

i hate you

[Rose21]

Okay you may hate me but seriously, why would you do something like that to him?

 

You only hate me because I speak the truth and now you dislike yourself.

 

If you had wanted to do something with that guy you should of atleast broken up with him before. Maybe even said go on a break idk anything but cheating! either one is bad, but both of them are better then the alternative.

 

Please tell me you atleast told him?

[KISSKISS]

ok i get where you're going.

but i'd appreciate if you would just

shut up.

i don't need to hear it over and over again.

[Rose21]

Just tell me if you have atleast old him.

[sparkles4]

This might seem like the last thing you want to do right now, but have you considered taking a break from your relationship while you guys are apart? You're only 18 and have been with the same dude for five years. That's a really long time to be committed to one person when you're both so young and still forming your ideas about what you want in a partner, and it might be beneficial to you both to take some time to meet other people. Maybe you'll find someone better for you, and maybe you won't, but you'll never know until you look. You said that your boyfriend is pretty much the only person you hang out with; maybe you should try existing outside of each other for awhile. Develop your own interests and activites and friends outside of your relationship and get to know yourself as an individual as opposed to part of a couple. As Rose21 has (rudely) pointed out, you've already cheated on the guy, which is fairly understandable given your situation. It just indicates that you have a desire to experience other people and see who else is out there, which you haven't really been able to do since middle school. I'd discuss your feelings with your boy.

[KISSKISS]

Now that I cheated on him (and found out that he cheated on me 3 MONTHS AGO!) and he knows, we're broken up. It is and has been a long time together. I don't want to search for someone else, I don't accidently want to meet "someone else", I just want him. Ya know it'd right what everyone says, you really have no idea what you've got until it's gone. And thank you for kind of understanding the cheating thing. Nothing about it will ever be okay... but, I think I know what you mean by saying it's understandable considering my situation (plus there's a lot of other history between us, bad history, that you all aren't aware of). But regardless, more than anythign I just want him back. Forever.