Jlizzy Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 In a relationship with man twenty odd years my senior. He has 4 grown up kids, going through a divorce now, separated 2 years. It's an LDR. For 2 months it was very intense, amazing, we got incredibly close and discovered we're so similar that we joke about trying to find differences. Then over past 2-3 weeks the contact drops next to nothing. I haven't been able to reach him at night especially and all in all it's hard to reach him. Finally in the last few days he's starting sending me more messages again and calling me though we havent spoken for 3-4 days now. He failed to give me any reason for the lack of contact until about 1.5 weeks into it when he told me his company was folding and he was staying with a friend who was advisin him. Apparently didnt have his laptop with him (for over a week) and phone reception was bad. I'm scared to death I've thrown myself into the deep end of something I cannot handle. I can handle all the circumstantial difficulties -distance, age, kids, divorce....I can't handle lack of contact, mind games, infidelity. Been though that stuff before. Can't do it again. I feel terrified because he told me he had an affair of 1-2 years on his wife he is now divorcing and he doesnt see his kids too much because of current tensions...so I feel reasonably convinced that either I've gone and thrown myself into commitment with a man who is still playing around or can't handle conflict whatsoever and backs away instead, or even both? To add to my confusion, my ex came back to me saying he made a major mistake. He's very inexperienced in love. I personally believe he has a condition causing him to be very unconvential in his behaviour but it's also very endearing to me. I understand him well and trust him a lot. Don't feel the same deep wow impact I felt from my current guy but recently when out with the ex realised I'm definitely starting to feel some sparks flying...of all times now!! Obviously I should take space. But I also dearly want advice on my current guys behaviour and even on the ex... Thanks in advance Link to comment
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