rentangel24 Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 I've been in a long distance relationship for over a year now. We're going to be living within 20 minutes of each other come this october, but right now we're still stuck with just phone calls every night. Recently he started talking about his ex girlfriend. I'm not sure if it's because he feels more comfortable with me or what, but it bothers me. He told me the story of how they were together for 3 years or so, and they would constantly break up and get back together. They would have a 3 month run and then be off for a month. That sort of thing. He told me it was more out of habit than anything and that he really didn't even get along with her, he was just really physically attracted to her. And for me, the hardest part about an ldr is the doubt as to whether your partner even finds you attractive. I've been in a long distance relationship before this, and during that one I got used to him and due to the lack of physicality I lost interest. The problem in this relationship is I'm head over heels, and I'm worried he'll lose interest in me. It would be pretty dumb if he waited this long just to end it, but I suppose anythings possible. I guess what I'm getting at is, how do I get over that jealous/anxious feeling in my stomach whenever I think about him and his ex. Me and him get along great, and he never gives me the idea he wasn't interested anymore, but when he mentions how the only reason he was with his ex was because she was physically attractive to him, I get worried that I won't be able to balance the strong emotional connection with the physical connection. I get worried we'll just end up friends because he isn't attracted to me. Is that silly and irrational? Thank you guys. Link to comment
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