gracerules2008 Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 This thread picks up where I left off from this one: Well I was in NC for 5 months with my ex girlfriend before I broke it by accident. Early this morning at 1:18am my ex girlfriend called me from a number I did not recognize. I answered it because curiosity got the best of me as to who might have been calling me at 1 oclock in the morning from a number I didn't recognize. I thought maybe it was one of my friends calling me to tell me that they changed their cell phone # or something. But surprisingly it was her. Damn it! Part of me told me that I should not answer the phone from an unknown number. I should have let it go to voicemail first. Now in the past when an unknown number would call my phone sometimes I would answer and sometimes I won't. So I asked her where she was calling from. She said she was at her work calling me from a friend's cell phone number. Okay so I was all polite and civil with her. She asked me what I've been up to. I just told her I've had a lot on my plate these days. So I kept my answers general. I asked how she was doing and her family. Then she goes on to mention how she has not talked to me in months. I responded "has it really been that long?". Then she asked me why I didn't respond to her nasty e-mail on myspace. I told her that I get many e-mails on there and that I don't have time to respond to all of them. Well I think she knows that I'm screening her calls. She must know that I would not have answered if she had called me from her house phone and that's why she pulled this stunt of calling me from an unrecognizable number. For those who haven't read my story about her she broke up with me 19 months ago. Why do some dumpers pull stunts like this such as calling you at 1 oclock in the morning from someone else's cell phone while they are at work? I have learned my lesson for the future. I'll never answer my phone if the caller id picks up a number I don't know or doesn't show a number at all. I'll let it go to voicemail first. I don't care how curious I get as to who is calling. My curiosity can wait. To be honest hearing her voice has set me back a little bit in the healing process. It's like I accidentally scratched a scab that was almost healed! All the painful memories started coming back. She does not really want me but it's like she sure enjoys making it a point to torment me. To all the dumpees have your dumpers pulled this kind of stunt on you? Are there any dumpers here who have pulled this kind of stunt and would like to give me some insight on why you did it? Link to comment
Kahdeksan Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Stand strong Grace, I actually thought you handled it really well!! The dumpers do this to rid themselves of any guilt that they have for putting us, the dumpees, through so much pain. Your ex misses you of course, but that's normal in most relationships, and it doesn't mean a thing when it comes to reconciling. Continue to be indifferent to her... glad to hear you're doing so well, mate! Hoorah to that! Link to comment
orangesoda Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 i don't think you're obligated to make any sort of decent conversation with her. if you happen to answer her call, just blow her off. i do it all the time to telemarketers. "oh i'm sorry, can't talk right now, just about to step out and run some errands, talk to you another time." then never call back. simple. Link to comment
gracerules2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Author Share Posted August 18, 2008 i don't think you're obligated to make any sort of decent conversation with her. if you happen to answer her call, just blow her off. i do it all the time to telemarketers. "oh i'm sorry, can't talk right now, just about to step out and run some errands, talk to you another time." then never call back. simple. Well I'm of the mindset that it's better to keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer. Sometimes being nice in conversation with your enemies will help them see just how much they're acting like a jerk. I'm sure she wanted me to be upset but she received just the opposite reaction. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Then she goes on to mention how she has not talked to me in months. I responded "has it really been that long?". Awesome answer to that question - I'm totally going to remember that one (if it ever comes up) Link to comment
gracerules2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Author Share Posted August 18, 2008 Awesome answer to that question - I'm totally going to remember that one (if it ever comes up) Yes because that gives her the impression that you haven't just been sitting around for months doing nothing except counting the days and weeks of NC! Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Yes because that gives her the impression that you haven't just been sitting around for months doing nothing except counting the days and weeks of NC! Exactly!!! I'll take "my pride regained" for 300 points Alex. Link to comment
orangesoda Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 well i'm not sure why you'd want to keep an enemy/ex close...unless they're a big part of your life still (like in your social circle, a co-worker, have children) or you want a shot at reconciliation. otherwise, what's the point? if you're trying to convince her that you've moved on, etc., then nothing's better than ignoring contact. if you're answering her calls and giving her the time of day, i think you're only giving her the impression that she still has a hold on you. and like you said, hearing her voice set you back. so don't hear her voice. like i said, if you happen to pick up, blow her off, she'll get the message eventually. Link to comment
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