beckkkk Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 I am upset. I look forward to weekends where we can spend some time together. He is very quiet this weekend, acts like he is miserable(This has happened many times. He goes from either VERY loving, to nothing!! It feels like a roller coaster.). He says he is hurting(chronic pain) and that is why he is so quiet. I can understand that, however..... He has spent the majority of the weekend ON THE COUCH, either watching TV or sleeping. He hasn't said 2 words to me. BUT, if one of his buddies calls he is fine with going out on the front porch to talk for hours. What the $#$%??? I never asked to swing from the rafters. I just want to be with him. Am I totally missing something here, or would anyone else be bothered by this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anggrace Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 How long have you been together? Is this something new or is this just how he is, how he prefers to spend his time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeStrongBeHappy Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Uh oh... you may have yourself a bona fide couch potato there, if he can muster the energy to go out with buddies but not for you. I was married to someone like this... he was basically a lazy sports addict and enjoyed watching sports all weekend. The TV went on at 11 a.m. Saturday, and didn't go off again until the last weekend game was over at 11 p.m. Sunday night. He acted put upon if i asked him to do anything else, but he could happily trot off with buddies to sports bars or football game weekends out of town. You may just not be compatible, or he may be lazy, or depressed, or he may have a problem (chronic pain) that needs to be addressed. But this also might be his preferred mode of relaxing, and if he isn't interested in the same things you are, it may not be worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Satsuma Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Does he get to see his friends much? Because if not this might be why he isnt hesitant to see them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallingAllAngels Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Hmmmmmm.....any reason to suspect he's cheating? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.