zenbabyk Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 His race is today... I have been NC since the 12th... Should I call him and wish him luck? I know he can't make outgoing phone calls right now because he went over on his minutes from talking to people in Brazil, but he can receive phonecalls... I've personally witnessed what it does when you try to make an outgoing phone call, so I know he can't contact me. However, he has been on facebook so he has had a chance to contact me from there and hasn't. Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Don't do it. You're inventing reasons to contact him, I do the same thing. No reason is good enough to contact him. Link to comment
Pocket Rocket Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Caterina is right, you're making excuses. If you two ever get back together just tell him then that you thought about him at the time, there's no reason to do it now. Don't break NC, focus on you and your healing, it will not be time wasted, believe me. Link to comment
kuhl282000 Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 It's up to you .....sounds like you want to .......maybe a text message ..... Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 There is no reason. Not even his birthday. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 There is no reason. Not even his birthday. Why are you so adamant against it? It isn't as though she wants to contact him for the sake of getting back together. I think a quick message or text wishing him well for the race is NOT a bad thing, PROVIDED that is all you want and that you don't sit there hoping he texts, calls or writes back. good luck. Link to comment
civilservant Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 This is the thing though isn't it? She has already intimated that she wants him to call her and he hasn't, which suggests that this text is a way back into his life to remind him that she still exsists. I wouldn't do it, because if you don't get a response it'll set you back. Link to comment
yankeefan74 Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 However, he has been on facebook so he has had a chance to contact me from there and hasn't. That's all you need to know. Dude's a player. Move on. Link to comment
Pocket Rocket Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 The problem ren is that from the post it sounds a lot like the OP is doing this with the expectation that her ex will say something in return. As civilservant has quite rightly said this can set her back miles. It's like pouring salt on an open wound, and don't forget that the break-up is very fresh. Few of us, if any, ever come out freshly as dumpees and contact our exes without expecting or hoping for a reply in return. And even if he does reply, it doesn't mean he wants to get back together either, but it may give the OP false hope. zenbabyk - if your ex wants to contact you he will. Sit on your hands if you have to but for NC to work well you need to be strong. Good luck! Link to comment
DN Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 I posted a question on your previous thread that may have a bearing. Link to comment
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