Godwin Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Well, its been around 3 months since I came out of my 7 year relationship and I think I have finally healed. I didn't think I could fall for someone else again in the near future and it was worrying me that if I met someone I liked then I might have problems connecting with them. Well on Friday that changed, I met a girl through an online dating site for a few drinks and we totally hit off. I have never felt a stronger instant attraction to anyone, so much so we spent the night together(no sex) and then most of the next day in each others company. She is coming through to stay with me on Wednesday night and I am going to take it from there. I will be on my guard though and am going to take things real slow. Link to comment
soul_soother Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Good deal man glad to hear it. Things going slow at first are always good, and keep your eyes forward! Link to comment
amipushy Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 WoooHooo Godwin. Happy for you. Any thoughts about girl number 2? Are you still going to meet her now you have clicked with girl 1? Link to comment
Gratsy Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 GOdwin you sound so healthy...you're going to get over this faster than you ex b/c she was just rebounding. Keep doing what you're doing. Link to comment
civilservant Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 I'm pleased for you, just beware 'the yips' Even now there'll be bad days, push past them! Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Way to go! And the slow route is the good route. Keep us updated. Link to comment
Godwin Posted August 17, 2008 Author Share Posted August 17, 2008 Thanks guys, your sentiments are really appreciated Whatever happens with this girl and even if it does not work out it shows me that there is life after the ex. I REALLY like this girl but I am going to play it extremely cool. I am off on holiday soon, so the 10 days I am away will make or break the situation. Taking it slow and coolness is the key I reckon. Amipushy, I think I should still meet girl number 2 as I need to know that my feelings for girl 1 are not desperation or rebound. Its only for a coffee so no expectations. Link to comment
lostnva Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Good for you Godwin! I cant wait to have that feeling again! I think Im getting to the point where I want to date again. Its been 2 months. Im almost there! Good luck! Link to comment
cr44hill Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 work it dawg! seriously, congrats and take is slow with this one, that way, YOU will be in control of the situation. Link to comment
HoTung Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 You go Godwin - woo hoo Man i wish i could meet someone i fancy Link to comment
Godwin Posted August 18, 2008 Author Share Posted August 18, 2008 You go Godwin - woo hoo Man i wish i could meet someone i fancy Awww thanks, its early doors yet though. Just another step forward in my life It will happen for you. It will happen when you least expect it Link to comment
HoTung Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 i hope it happens but beginning to doubt it myself Link to comment
Godwin Posted August 21, 2008 Author Share Posted August 21, 2008 The ex and I have re-established communication, 3 months to the day. She is moving away next week and has asked if I wanted some furniture, I do, so will need to go and pick it up. We also discussed how I can see that the split is for the best and that we both care for each other and wish each other well. We will stay in contact via email. I have no ill-feeling towards her and am glad that I can see her before she leaves, I know it will be strange and possibly hard but I am now strong enough to face my demons. To be honest my mind had been occupied by this girl I met last Friday. Thoughts? Link to comment
amipushy Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 Thoughts? Focus on the future. Look back by all means but do not stare. Link to comment
Godwin Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 Thoughts? Focus on the future. Look back by all means but do not stare. Nice advice, I shall quickly say my goodbye's and then get the hell out of there. Even if it does not work out for her, I can't and won't be there to pick up the pieces. I wish her well, I care about her, I am not in love with her though. I have had a brief taste of the future and I realise that there is someone out there who will bring more happiness to me than her. I don't know who that person is yet, but in time I will find them. Link to comment
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