Rose21 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 So last night was the last time I will see my boyfriend for 5 weeks. We went out to a nice dinner, he picked up my ring from Zales (it had just finished getting sized) And we relaxed and were extra lovey at my house before he had to leave. He left at 6 am this morning to drive to Lubbock, TX with his family to un pack and get ready for school and everything. He's starting a new chapter, while I am too, but me and his family and all of his friends are stuck 5 hrs away behind him in TX. I was getting all emotional and dreading this day. And he said he loves me so much, and asked if I did, and I told him of course I did, and he said I have NOTHING to worry about. That 5 weeks isn't really that long, and when I start college too, and my new job and hang out with my friends and meet new people I'm going to be SO busy and the time is going to fly by quickly. He assured me that I will see him soon, and we will talk on the phone and text every single day, and I need to be strong for him. I need to learn to stand on my own two feet. That he loves me and no one could ever take my place, I am the only girl in his eyes. And that I know is true, and he is the only in my eyes. Infact, members of the opposite sex for both of us really annoy us. And we have vowed to not hang out with any one on one or get any form of phone numbers or anything. That was also his boundry he set for himself because he didn't think that was right. But yeah, I want to be strong but I am going to miss him SOO much. He said that my problem is, that I think the more time a couple spends apart the more the GROW apart and the more the emotional connection between them diminishes and their relationship totaly changes. How can I get out of that mindset? I mean, my 5 weeks seem so measly. One friends doing 8 weeks, the other 12, the other 4 months, and the other 15 MONTHS. She says she loves him so much and she can't wait til he's done with the Army. Last night was the 1st time she had even HEARD from him in 10 DAYS. I don't know how she does it. But she is so strong and I want that courage. What can I do for those 5 weeks to keep myself busy and not be so lonely and down all the time? The last weekend of September is when I will see him. I already made the reservations. Me and 3 or 4 of my friends will be going down there and staying in the Suites hotel, and me and my boyfriend will have our own room for the weekend. I only have to pay like $30 for gas and split the cost with him for the 2nd night, because the first night is covered with Marriott points my stepdad set up. And then he will be coming back on an extended weekend in October, Thanksgiving which is a week, X-mas which is a MONTH, that goes through Jan, Feb he will come down for a weekend, and March he will come down for 2 weeks of Spring Break which will also mark our year anniversery, April Easter Break, and then we get out of summer the very 1st week of May and dont go back til the very end of August of beg of September. Am I over reacting about the distance? Is it really not that bad? He has no doubt in his mind, I mean, NOT AT ALL that this isn't going to work and we are going to last forever. He said its only for the time being, and he is positive nothing could come between us to make his feelings fade. How do I get more like him? He is just so trusting. Of course I trust him too, but I just have doubts from time to time and am a big worrier. My mom doesnt think its that long either and says I'm going to be so busy with school. Any ideas on how to cope? Link to comment
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