Of all the stoplights, in all the towns, in all the world...

[RLW]

She has to stop at mine.

 

Sorry its so long winded, but i like to be detailed. Ok, heres the story so far...

 

3 or 4 weeks ago, a couple friends from work invite me to Denny's, (we we're bored and its the only thing open at 10:30 pm in my town). So i agree and head into town. Actually they invited me at about 8 but I'm actually glad i refused their invitation till 10:30. here's why.

 

So I cruise into town in the saturn, and realize i'm being tail gated the whole way by a honda civic. At the first stoplight i turn left. They turn left, and try to pass me on the right. Being the jerk that i am I tell myself this simply will not happen, and we end up racing to the next light. Needless to say, said person is SHUT, DOWN. At the light i see it is actually a VERY attractive female, but more importantly, i feel my honor is at stake here. I honk the horn and make a "YOU, ME, RACE." motion with my hands. she agrees and we race from there to the freeway and again i win.

 

So we end up going to the same place oddly enough, and as we get out of the car we exchange a few lighthearded insults. which end in me pointing out the fact that i still won, in a saturn. so i sit with my friends and she sits accross the restauraunt with her friend. They keep saying this girl keeps looking over at me and walks by a couple times and they say she keeps looking. so i ask the waitress to hand her a note saying "pink slip or your number" and i get a reply with her number on it. this is just about the first time ive ever taken the initiative with this type of situation, just thought i'd point that out.

 

So over the course of the next couple weeks we talk and hang out a couple times, and i come to the realization that this girl is both hot AND really cool. right off the bat she tells me she is going to move temporarily to New Mexico for school. (but its for a Communuity Collage, pointless i know.) So as the day moves ever closer and closer i start to realize i'm really going to miss this girl. ALOT. She says she is going to move back after the fall semester and she really doesn't know why she decided to go to begin with, and she will visit as much as possible, because of family mainly, but hey, works for me. i start to tell her how much i'm going to miss her and she says the same, and al sorts of stuff like i should have raced her sooner before she decided to go, etc.

 

The eve of her supposed departure she stops by my house to say by. we talk for like 15 min, and then she heads back to her parents place, (which is less that a mile from my house strangely enough). I didn't try to kiss her, NOTHIN. i walk back inside feeling i effed up bad, and just chalk it up to experience. then i get a text from her the next day saying that she didn't leave yet on account of the friend she traveled with wasn't done packing. I immediately think "here's my second chance". she stops by again and its the same thing, but this time i actually grow a pair and kiss her. we basically end up making out up against her moms honda pilot until she has to go home. she does, we talk on the phone. she leaves the next morning and is in new mexico as of yesterday evening. she tells me how much she misses me, and that she can't wait to see me again.

 

so what i'm asking you is, Am I a fool to think i might actually be able to keep this girl interested till she moves back in december, if she even does?

 

How often should i talk to her?

 

Why can't i stop thinking about this?

 

Keep in mind this girl is WAY out of my league and i am surprised she is even talking to me

 

also this one of the first times i haven't blown it with a woman by being to shy, and i'd like to keep it that way.

[bohito64]

Well if you don't have any other options open, why not?

I think talk once a week.

Maybe you can't stop thinking about it because you met in interesting circumstances.

[mattysfun]

shouldnt you be on a plane right now?

[mattysfun]

o and post what happens.

this story is way cute.

[RLW]

shouldnt you be on a plane right now?

 

Amtrak is 150 roundtrip, i looked into it

[Supa_gurl]

150 is not bad. I say wait about half way through her leave...then go for it. Pop in for a visit. Consult her first of course.

[bijoux27]

I think you're doing everything right so far.

 

Am I a fool to think i might actually be able to keep this girl interested till she moves back in december, if she even does?

 

No, you aren't a fool to think that, and it's very possible that she will still be interested.

 

How often should i talk to her?

Since she has school I'm not sure how busy she will be, but I would say to have conversations at least 3x a week...and touch base everyday or two/three. A simple text or msg will be fine. But make sure you guys don't go too long without real conversations. She wants to know you're still interested in her as much as you do. Take this opportunity to get to know the real her.

 

Why can't i stop thinking about this?

Because you liiiiiike herrrr And you're romanticising the situation in which you two met. Which isn't a bad thing, enjoy it!!

 

Keep in mind this girl is WAY out of my league and i am surprised she is even talking to me

I'm sure you're an awesome person, why wouldn't she be interested in you?? It seems like she's very playful, and very receptive to your actions, so keep up that playful and fun vibe alive, but be yourself.

[SupaflyTNT]

There are no leagues.

 

Just keep up the contact, maybe three times a week like bijoux says. Get to know her. She was interested enough to give you her number and keep in contact with you while she was in your town, why not keep it going?

[RLW]

150 is not bad. I say wait about half way through her leave...then go for it. Pop in for a visit. Consult her first of course.

 

Well she plans on coming back late september for her brothers wedding, so luckily i wont have to wait too long to see her again, even if only for a couple days.

 

We've been talking everyday, and i know she has only been gone a few days, but so far it seems things are just getting better.

[Rammspieler]

If sh!t like that happened to me I am certain that I would some how screw things up. Nice to see things are working out for someone.

[RLW]

If sh!t like that happened to me I am certain that I would some how screw things up. Nice to see things are working out for someone.

 

Ohhhhh don't count the possibility of me ruining a good thing out. I'm pretty damn amazing in that department.

[bingedrinking]

I don't know the answers to your questions. I can only say one thing:

 

Out of her league? No way, you look hot!

[RLW]

Well, someone asked me to keep them posted about this story so here ya go.

 

for a while things were going pretty sweet, but then she started her new job. Now she hardly has any time to talk, and she starts school next week. She will be taking 5 classes, so i don't know wth. i just really have he feeling shes gonna find someone new and i'm gonna be left high and dry.

[mattysfun]

she seems to busy to be looking for someone else.

[Ftheworld]

This sounds like a love story...don't eff it up lol. I'd keep as much contact as possible and try to visit as much as possible too. Too much weird stuff has happened...this could the 'The One.'

[RLW]

she seems to busy to be looking for someone else.

 

Thats is probably true, but she could also be too busy to keep something going with a guy in another timezone...

 

This sounds like a love story...don't eff it up lol. I'd keep as much contact as possible and try to visit as much as possible too. Too much weird stuff has happened...this could the 'The One.'

 

I try not to think of it like that, but i can't help but notice every little tiny thing that has seemingly been FORCED into place by the gods. I don't know if she is necessarily "the one" (though it does kinda feel that way), but i do think that i was suppose to meet her for some reason.

 

As for keeping contact, the only time we can really talk is before she goes to work in the morning. Hopefully she might adjust to her busy schedule, and maybe things will go back to when she first left a lil, but i'm trying not to get my hopes up. She says she is going to move back in december for sure, so all i can do is look forward till then.

[RLW]

well, an update on my situation. it seems my dream of being with this girl is slipping further and further away. we hardly talk at all now, but she is on my mind more than ever. she never answers my calls, but calls every once in a while so we can talk for 2 minutes. i don't know if she is just to busy or what. how do i know if she just wants me to leave her alone?

[onyxblue]

so what i'm asking you is, Am I a fool to think i might actually be able to keep this girl interested till she moves back in december, if she even does?

 

 

 

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You're not a fool for thinking this - you're a fool for racing up and down streets, putting everyone else in danger. Grow up, man. Then you will figure out the women, too.

[RLW]

You're not a fool for thinking this - you're a fool for racing up and down streets, putting everyone else in danger. Grow up, man. Then you will figure out the women, too.

 

actually, i understand women quite well. i understand people quite well. and i also understand that driving fast has nothing to do with women. also you have no idea just how good or bad i might be at the sport. just cause you don't like the way some people drive is no reason to resort to personal attacks.

[bostonbruins24]

I would keep in touch with her but talking everyday isn't necessary,it is meaningless anyway.What will ultimately decide your fate with her is when you see her in person the next time she is home.Let her do the initiating for the time being but you should also be keeping your options open to meeting other girls.If she isn't going to be home much and you two are apart often,it is farfetched to think that you two are in a serious relationship,so I would keep her on the backburner for awhile.