Questioning girl behavior

[Carmine]

There's this girl I asked out about a week ago. She turned me down and gave a pretty legit excuse about being gone for several days at a time (she would be out of state). She didn't offer another time to go out, however, so I just assumed she wasn't interested and moved on.

 

Today I saw her for the first time since then. She was working and I was just stopping in with my friend to get something to eat. We went to a concert tonight so we were busy talking music and I didn't notice her all that much. When I did see her though, she gave a really warm smile and even blushed a bit. It then made me think later - if she wasn't interested, wouldn't she be avoiding me or looking away?

 

She's pretty shy by the way.

[Caterina]

You could always risk it and try again. BUt just make sure that you know its a risk.

 

The fact that you moved on quickly after that and just acted aloof and casual instead of being a whiny little wimp is probably attractive to her.

[itsallgrand]

Next time you go for something to eat, I'd just make an opportunity to chat to her. You'll be able to tell whether to try again or not.

 

It's hard to gauge when someone's busy at work. And yeah, she might have genuinely wanted to try going out with you but had something on the go.

 

Seeing how she is shy, I'd approach a second time. Wouldn't hold my breath for her to take the step of coming to you even if she wants to. lol.

 

Worst thing that happens? She shows you she isn't interested in anything but a friendly back and forth at work.

 

Talking to her next time at least will break the tension for her of seeing this guy who asked her out and not knowing exactly yet if he is going to be cool with her next time around.

 

Points all around for being nice and not avoiding her altogether here on in, is my opinion.

[D_Lish]

Well I would avoid someone and look away, if I had no interest. If I have no interest, I make it pretty clear I havn't and the last thing I'd do, is smile at them......for it only encourages a guy to approach again.

 

However...I agree with itsallgrand.

 

I also think that her smiling at you, is a good and a positive sign...

[Imprecision]

Carmine,

 

You should multi-task. Keep a list of girls you're stringing along, or you're working on, or they're stringing you along (but you want to play along). Diversify.

 

i have turned guys down in the past simply because i was flustered or taken off guard that they asked, then kinda regretted it later.

 

This has happened to me, too. Persistence is good. If you've asked a girl out once, you might as well ask her out again. Nothing to lose.

[Caterina]

Carmine,

 

You should multi-task. Keep a list of girls you're stringing along, or you're working on, or they're stringing you along (but you want to play along). Diversify.

 

 

 

This has happened to me, too. Persistence is good. If you've asked a girl out once, you might as well ask her out again. Nothing to lose.

 

Yeah but what about quality over quantity. Do you just want any girl or do you want something special? This girl sounds nice, she probably wants you to pursue her a little, chase her...but be forewarned, young women are very fickle.

[Phaser]

If she is shy, she may not have had the courage to counter offer.

 

Try again, fingers crossed.

[Carmine]

Thanks for the responses.

 

I figure another possibility is she could like me, but she doesn't want to get anything started right now at the end of August since we go to school about 2 hours away from each other.

[ghost69]

i asked a girl out that works at a bar. she had a bf that worked there. oh well. any time i go in there now she smiles and says hey and hooks me up with drinks. i flattered her asking her out. sucks i don't get a shot, but her behavior now means nothing. keep on man.